My hasband often leaves me alone with my daughter to go to a billiard room and it angers me.
2007-02-05 08:27:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Figure out his pattern and pre-empt him a couple of times. On a night when you feel pretty sure he's going to go out, get all your stuff and just as you're going out the door, yell over your shoulder, "Honey, I'm going out. Back later. Take care of the baby while I'm gone." Then get out fast and stay gone a couple of hours. Go shopping, or visit a female friend. Once he knows how it feels to have it done to him, you will then have a basis for a realistic, compromise-reaching conversation.
2007-02-05 08:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same spot as you are right now!!
I sat down with my husband and told him that i needed time out to, but i wanted to be with him and the baby too. So we came to an agreement, every Friday he would go out to play pool and he paid a babysitter to watch over the kids so i could go out the same night of the week so we could spend the rest of the time together as a family. And let me tell you we have kept this deal for almost 6 years now!! Some times i have nobody to go out with, so i go to the movies alone and watch the move i have been dying to see but my husband doesn't want to see. Or, i do a girls only night out with my 2 daughters and leave the boy home with the sitter, or the opposite way. But most of the time i go shopping and to finish the night i go and have a margarita with my Friends.
Just talk to your husband, don't get angry and try to settle this.
And by the way, i hope he is a good pool shooter, my husband is a great one!!
2007-02-05 17:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Atzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who said take the time to enjoy your daughter. Does your husband work outside the home? He probably needs downtime, as do you, to regenerate and recharge. I'm sure it's nothing personal against you.
If you have something that you like to do, compromise. He goes out once a week, you do something on your own once a week. You both need time for yourselves.
2007-02-05 16:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all need an activity and a hobby, I would tell him how you feel and ask him to limit time going to play billards, maybe like once a week but also spend sometime with you like a date night...also get yourself a hobby where he is at home with you daughter while you get some time to yourself.
2007-02-05 16:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by prettyinanything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get used to it. He probably played billiards before you got married and if you thought that was going to change after you got married, you were wrong. Quit worrying about it and let him go.
2007-02-05 16:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be given some private time with the boys just like you can go out with your girlfriends so long as it is reasonable. I used to take my daughter to my friend's house to watch football, nothing wrong with that either.
Do you want him to take the daughter to the pool hall?
2007-02-05 16:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't go every day just relax and spend quality time with your daughter. He needs an out let just as you do. If you get angry you will only make him want to be out more.
2007-02-05 16:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a baby sitter and go out yourself. You are still a adult and not just a mommy. Everyone needs to get out of the house and have their own time.
2007-02-05 16:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by Alaska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Box him in too much and he'll leave permanently. Try to get him to compromise if he goes too often.
And it's "Pool Hall"
2007-02-05 16:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And where do you go by yourself? You must find something to do alone.
2007-02-05 16:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋