If so, how was the beginning of the relationship and what happened after time went on and they knew they “got you”? How did they react at first when you were courting? Did that change over the course of the marriage? What is the pattern of women who are narcissistic? Here’s my situation: met my wife, she is absolutely beautiful, she said she fell for me real hard, nobody knew her like I did, married me after 3 months, started blaming me and my kids for her troubles, started verbally abusing me, started listening to her narcissistic mom (who’s jealous because she was losing her narcissistic supply to me her husband), my wife is now aligned with her mother instead of me, constantly criticizes me, threatens divorce, and also (this is a doozy) even after all this wants to have a baby with me. If you were married to a narcissist what can I expect in the end?
2007-02-05 08:21:54 · 5 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can expect a divorce, just like my ex husband got.
2007-02-05 08:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
narcissistic? Where did you get this and think this is an apt label that covers everything? Every situation is different.
Sometimes you need to mess things up to make them better. All of this sounds like a control thing. Married you only after 3 months? Obviously you have kids so you were doing OK previously. Its pretty clear she was not prepared for marriage and maybe was just in love with the thought, not you. And god knows what she tells her mother.
You need to sort this out and take control. Next time divorce is mentioned say you guess she is right since this is not working. That will mess up her and whatever she is telling her mother. It puts the ball in her court. The baby thing says it all as this seems to be another way to rope you down. She is only caring for what she can get, not you. Tell her to go and I gaurantee things will start to change. She will start kissing your butt but don't buy into it. You have already seen what she is all about.
2007-02-05 16:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was engaged to him everything was so wonderful, i felt so lucky, shortly after it started, his way or no way, his kids he wanted by mine he didn't want, just 10 years of hurt, with me actually beginning to believe this was just life, i just settled for it, and accepted it. in the end i got replaced because i had no more to give, there was no more he could beat me out of. when i finally asked for fair treatment he asked for a divorce, as he already had a life waiting on him, just better once u see it for what it is to get out of it.as there is little one can do with a narcissist.
2007-02-05 16:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to go to a counselor because ur marriage is heading downhill. being a narcissist about looks has nothing to do with it. its about being selfish. a marriage is made up of two people, not one. and if shes causing ur kids trouble, imagine how thrilled they are to be around her. u need to solve ur problems together before the kids are affected as u are.
2007-02-05 16:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-02-05 16:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋