The man I am married is being mean to my kids (his step kids). The father (the other guy) of my youngest left me when I was pregnant with the baby. I am in love with TWO different guys. HELP ME!!! The other guy come back into my life.... I am confused...
2007-02-05 08:15:51 · 6 answers · asked by Dont k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-05 08:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have a bond with the father of your kids. I know mine is so strong. The thing you need to think about is how he treated you and left you. Right now, do not let anyone be mean to your kids. You are better off alone than with someone who doesn't respect you or your kids. do you just feel this way since you like the other man? Be honest. One step at a time. Maybe just realize you will always have feelings for this person but is he someone who has feelings for you, does he want you back, willhe leave you again? Good luck
2007-02-05 16:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by confuzed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sounds like a common thing some females deal with... You actually love one more than the other and you need to figure who that is. While you figure this out though you need to always remember, that your kids are yours and you need to protect them until they become of age to protect themselves, if your husband is being mean to your kids you need to let him know from now don't wait until the problem escalates into something bigger. If he can't understand then you might want to re-evaluate your marriage because maybe you guys got married for the wrong things. A man that marries a woman with kids is suppose to love her and her kids as a complete package. Good luck.
2007-02-05 16:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by sweettrini1012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a soap opera. You need to decide who you want to be with. If the guy you are married to is mean to your kids, you should not be with him. If the other guy left you when you were pregnant for the baby, he's not a good choice either. The kids come first not you, so you better decide who is best for them too.
2007-02-05 16:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have rushed into a marriage without thinking ahead..Before you make another decision try counseling with your husband to see what's going on between him and the kids..Maybe he knows about your feeling for this other guy and is resenting the children for it. Also why would you even think about this other guy regardless if he is the father of your children he left you once so why wouldn't he do it again!?
2007-02-05 16:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by Winnie08_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if u have two loosers. one who left u and one who is abusive to your children. u need to get rid of them both, get a job, get some child support, and move on with life. sometimes when we have a poor opinion of ourselves, or we have no self worth we do get involved with either users, or abusers. neither man sounds too great and neither man will make u happy. start new find someone who has character, and who doesn't abuse your kids.
2007-02-05 16:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋