what is the best way to tell my parents that im gay?

Answer 1

I really don't think there's a BEST way... they'll be shocked however they find out about it.

My parents found out in the worst way possible... by finding a stash of pornos under my bed when I was 16 and then they confronted me about it... it went down like a lead balloon, but at least it got me out of actually having to initiate the conversation.

I would suggest that you tell them while your having dinner, or doing something else for that matter... do it face to face as over the phone is a bit of a cop-out. Whatever you do, do not cry... it will just make you look weak and indecisive and make your parents worry even more.

Chances are, they'll not be thrilled. That's just natural for any parent, but given time they'll probably come round. It's weird because I thought my Mum would be more ok than my Dad, but my Dad is so chilled out about it it's unreal... he's even offered to come clubbing with me (hmmm maybe that's a bit odd!)

My Mum on the other hand still has issues with it, even after 11 years of knowing. She thinks that I can never be happy and that my life must be a miserable disaster... in fact she couldn't be further from the truth. Despite telling her this repeatedly, she can't seem to understand why no one is bothered about me being gay. We have had so many arguments about it, it's unreal and I've recently decided to wash my hands of her and be civil, but not close as I keep getting hurt by her.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that you should tell your parents... at least it's all out in the open then. They are 99,9% likely going to have some issues initially, but generally they'll become cool with it as you get older. However that isn't guaranteed so you have to prepare for the fact that they may not accept it.

Tell them... be yourself and be happy. Ultimately it matters little what your parents think anyway... it's your life and you should live it how you see fit... don't try and please other people all the time... you'll end up unhappy.

Answer 2

I'm a pessimist here, I'm not sure there's a "good" way. They'll either be cool or they won't. One bit of advice is to think of the parent that will be the most cool and tell him/her first and try to find out what the other will be like, and the best way to broach the subject.

I thought my dad would be mad, but he acted with complete and utter indifference apart from a vague concern it might affect my exam revision. He was more laid back than my mum, which I guess isn't what you expect. You just don't know how people are going to react.

Answer 3

Just tell them that you want to tell them something before they hear it from somewhere else. Then be up front and tell them the truth. I truly believe that most parents will suspect before you tell them and most handle it better than you suspect they will. It may also work to tell the parent that you are closest to and then ask them how to tell the parent that will have the most emotional reaction. I thhink that girls often can easier tell their dads and boys can often easier tell their moms but you will have to decide. Once the word is out I suspect they will accept you as you are but may have some questions. A lot of their concern may also be for your health and welfare so take it in context.

Answer 4

No, because you're still young. Wait it out a couple more years and see if you still feel the same OR tell them that you THINK your gay and why if you really want to tell them about how you're currently feeling. But I still advise waiting it out a little while longer.

Answer 5

It really depends on your parents. I had to tell mine over the phone while I was away at my freshman year of college after I had to go to the hospital for my tongue ring that I just got and they didn't know about. They asked what else I haven't told them, soooo I told I enjoyed the company of girls... that way, they got over any hostility or whatever but not talking to me for a week or so. And now we're good.

Answer 6

Well it's a bit difficult in the beginning. My mother discovered I am a lesbian last summer by chance. That damn mobile phone! (a message to my ex gf betrayed everything.) And she really gave me the third degree. Correct interrogation! And what do you feel about her, it's not correct e.t.c Bullshit according to me. As the others said it depends on your parents. You can ask them to talk sometimes and explain them that every person's sexuality it's his own matter and by trusting them such a big secret you want them to know how much you love them and need them next to you, whatever you are.

Answer 7

Just tell them. Be prepared to answer questions and hear their side. They are your parents so hopefully this won't have any long term affect on your relationship with them. (it wouldn't with me as a parent) That doesn't mean they won't have questions and doubts - but try to get through the initial shock together. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Tell them that your happy and that you love them. Tell them that nothing has changed and that you are still the same person. tell them that you need their support.

Tell them not to worry because you a sensible person. Inform them about gay culture and that all the gay stereotypes are not necessarily correct. Keep telling them you love them.

Answer 9

tell your parents that your gay by going mom/dad you have been great parents.my feeling have change.and i am gay.then you can tell them how and why.and who you are dating

Answer 10

Buy them gifts before, tell that you love them a lot, and bring your b/f.