I'm a lesbian and I have a child and I would like for my partner to adopt my child. How and wher can I do it?

Question

I want my girlfriend to adopt my son but I don't know how to do it please if you know let me know. We live in houston texas.

Answer 1

Unfortuneatley, you can't. We live in Oklahoma and I know Texas and Oklahoma have very similar laws. If you want ot move to New Jersey, they allow same sex adoption. You just can't ever leave the state. Becuase other states don't recognize the adoption, if something were to happen in another state, only one of you has legal rights. Stupid, huh? Now, you can spend thousands of dollars, get an attorney, and file legal papers to have the same rights as hetero couples. Our country is more screwed up than most people think.

Answer 2

Here is some of the rules:
Adoption is the legal and emotional acceptance into a parent's family of a child not born to the parent(s). The child will have the parents' name and the same legal rights as a child by birth. After an adoption is approved by a court, the parents will receive an official decree and a birth certificate with the parents' name listed as the parent. Each state has its own adoption law, though adoption might affect Federal Social Security law. As a general rule, an adult must be a fit parent to adopt a child – and the parents do not have to be married. However, it is generally much more difficult for unmarried couples or same-sex couples to adopt, as adoption agencies are often biased towards married couples.
Their is some loop holes to look out for but their are different depend on the country you live in.
But you have to check with a lawyer, they are bound to give you more info on how to go about things and they have to keep quiet because lawyer client act.
Good luck:)

Answer 3

perhaps instead of 2nd parent adoption, you could put in your will that she would raise the child if anything happened to you? The other writer is correct that you can get a 2nd parent adoption in NJ but if you stay in GWBushville they might not honor such a thing from another state. is there some other relative or maybe the child's father who would object to your partner having the child if you died?

Answer 4

It depends on your situation. Second parent adoption is not possible where a lesbian, gay, or bisexual parent has custody of a child from a previous heterosexual marriage or relationship, unless the former spouse or former partner is willing to give up his or her parental rights.

Second parent adoption is also not possible where a lesbian or bisexual woman in a same-sex co-parenting relationship has had a child through donor insemination and where the sperm donor is a legal father (unless the donor is willing to give up his parental rights).