I have an illegitimacy question?

Question

Why are the amount of bastards in this country at an all time high NOW? I though the free-love era was past.Shouldn't have the culmination of illegitimacy in our country taken place in our country in the supposedly most liberal time...the 70's, and only becoming gradually LESS acceptable? So why in the hell do I hear that it's becoming MORE and more acceptable to bring bastards into this country?

Just hearing the words "baby daddy" makes me cringe. Big time. It's disgusting. I would go crazy if I grew up with only a mother. This country is in a serious ethical decay right now and I hope it improves again someday. A child needs to be born in the structural security of wedlock. In recent decades when people suddenly decided "hey it's ok to screw around out of wedlock and bring children into fatherless homes" then it caused nothing but a cycle of trouble that plagues our country as a social disease. A child needs a father and mother to be role models, raise them, and teach them right from wrong. When people have children out of wedlock they are being selfish by harming the kids who have to suffer from fatherless homes, and towards everyone else too because it's bad for our society. You think with all the trouble this has caused people would've already woken up but too many people still just don't get it.

And just because there are a few acceptions doesn't change the overall truth.

^^whoops exceptions^^

Answer 1

this is the side effect of living in a society in which sexual mores have just about become extinct. little thought is put into having sex (younger and younger), not practicing safe sex, and reproducing as a single parent. who does this impact? the child is the victim.

Answer 2

I hear what you are saying, but there are a lot of fatherless
children in this country due to divorce. These women still
have to raise children on their own. Often without financial
support as well as without emotional support. You have been
one of the lucky ones. I don't know your age or sex but if
you are female you may have the experience of raising
children without a husband. 50% of all marriages end in
divorce. I suppose you can't blame the children, all people
come in the world the same way , the joining of a sperm
and an egg. You can't pick your parents!

Answer 3

It's all to do with TRUST.
Who CAN you trust these days?
Will they be there for you at crunch time? Or will they just move on to another victim?

We're not going to stop having sex.
More people now are AGAINST abortion, and the meaning of TRUE LOVE has been highjacked by the manipulators of our minds.

Check out 'source' below.

Answer 4

I think that many people are so starved for love and affection that they will accept the "next best thing". The temporary feeling of being loved and cared for, valued and validated causes many women and girls to turn to the men and boys who will hold them, even if only for a little while. Naturally, babies will result from many of these unions. This is not going to go away.

Answer 5

Everyone has their opinions about everything. I think you have not looked at the whole picture when it comes to family and families. The nuclear family has since been long lost and a mother, father and child, while it still exists isn't very wide spread. Green pastures and sunny skies can be found everywhere, you only have to look.

Answer 6

I believe that people have sex without fear of consequences of thier actions because there is no law that would punish them severly enough. I also believe that government system causes most of the single parent families due to the fact two people cant make it and the only way the system works is if the parent is single. ie..medical, food, housing, etc. imo

Answer 7

It used to be a bad thing to bear children while unmarried. Today, single mothers are viewed as "victims", even though the fact is, it was a conscious choice to become one in most instances.
It has become acceptable, if not fashionable, to be a single mother and quite acceptable to rely on 'Uncle Sugar' to subsidize the choice, or if possible, force the father to supply it while at the same time forcing him to keep at a distance, if not be invisible. Many times, women want a child but not the inconvenience of marriage; often relying on "child support" as a promised income for 18-23 years. A reference by another answerer was made about fathers running off but the fact is, most fathers are intentionally driven away and quite often never informed that they are parents at all.

Society has been on a downward spiral for decades. I see no reason to believe it will be become more moral or caring in the near future. That being the case, I expect the birth rate to single mothers to continue at 30% as it has for many years and quite possibly grow to 40-45% in the near future.

Sadder than all, the children are far more likely to have social problems starting in their teens and continuing throughout their life for the apparent reason that they failed to have a father in their life.
Without anyone (except for a few crazed feminists) intending it, mothers in the U.S. now are offered substantial incentives to create fatherless families -- via the combination of no-fault divorce laws, generous and predictable "child support," as well as artificial insemination to unmarried women and allowing single mothers to adopt.

Children who grow up without a father present, even when adjustments are made for income, are 75% more likely to need professional assistance for emotional problems, twice as likely to repeat a grade of school, and more likely to suffer a wide variety of other disorders including anxiety, peer conflict, and hyperactivity. [National Center for Health Statistics, June 1991.

71% of teenage pregnancies are to children of single parents. Daughters of single parents are 2.1 times more likely to have children during their teenage years than are daughters from intact families. Daughters of single parents are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92% more likely to dissolve their own marriages. All these intergenerational consequences of single motherhood increase the likelihood of chronic welfare dependency.

Answer 8

Your comments are very ignorant. Why do you call people bastards? It makes no sense. It is like you are blaming the child for something that they cannot help.

Sometimes parents just can't get their act together okay? Calling people bastards is hardly appropriate! Calling someone illegitimate is rude! Get a life and stop talking about other people's sex lives!

Answer 9

More women are choosing to be mothers now and have careers later without the thought of marriage. They live with the bf or the gf get pregnant and then things get rocky and dad leaves.

Answer 10

you need to go into a career of helping young people realize the negative impacts of having children in this way. good luck.
you can change the world, one young person at a time.