So..I've been w/my b/f for a little over a year and we live together. He's been asking me what I want or want to do for Valentine's Day. I told him he shouldn't have to ask me, to let it be a surprise.. but he's kind of freaking out about it b/c he doesn't know what to do.. I think he just doesn't want to disappoint me..Should I give him some ideas..or shouldn't he just be creative and figure something out on his own??
2007-02-05 08:02:37 · 30 answers · asked by kcgurl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Well, Being married almost 10 years... guys simply can't read our minds : )
You can give him a list of things to do or get that you would enjoy and still be surprised cause you still won't know what exactly he's getting you. It will also alleviate the stress he's going through to have some tangible options. It's cute that he still wants to impress you, don't you think.
If you are a gal that doesn't want to explicitly tell him... you can always make a list of things like:
favorite color, dress size, shoe size, favorite bands, favorite foods... etc.
He may know you... but for him to see you write it down, may help him not to freak out, ya know?
2007-02-05 08:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Seamless Melody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't come up with something on his own then you should seriously consider whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy (or whether you should be living with him). He's freaking out because he doesn't know what to do, and you've been together for over a year? How in the heck does he even qualify as an adult?!?!! You're right -- he shouldn't have to ask you. He should know enough about you and should have been paying enough attention over the last year to have at least some idea of what he could do for you to make Valentine's Day romantic. Take it from someone who has been around and has seen relationships like yours come and go: This won't get better over time. Now is the perfect opportunity for you to give your boyfriend a wake-up call. If he really cares about you, he'll think of something. But if he insists on having you tell him what you want, it's time to start planning your exit strategy.
2007-02-05 16:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always nice to be surprised but if you don't help him out he might not enjoy this day...make it easier on him and give him some ideas. Helping him with ideas as to what would make you happy doesn't mean you should orchestrate the entire thing, he can do that and the way he plans it out will be the surprise for you.
2007-02-05 16:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by shayshay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend's the same way. Really all I want is to be surprised but I already know what I'm getting and that is just no fun. Just tell him you want to be surprised, to be romantic but nothing over-the-top and that maybe it would be a good idea to run it by a friend as a safety guard first, lol.
2007-02-05 16:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, give him a hint. He should be fun and romantic and figure out something on his own, but you have to give him someplace to start. If you say, well, we could go out to dinner and a movie, then he can find a restaurant and pick a movie. If you say, lets stay home and watch a movie, you pick something, it gives him another idea. You could mention jewelry, candy, going on a trip someplace, inviting some friends over...just mention some idea of what you expect, and he will do the rest. Hopefullly.
2007-02-05 16:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give him some hints as what you find romantic and what not. Just bring them up in the conversation. Like I think this and that is cool or I like to do this and that but don't tell him directly what to do! Let him surprise you!
2007-02-05 16:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lifesucks2333 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a few ideas or you may be disappointed. I've been with my b/f for over 4 years now and I don't expect him to get it perfect every time.
2007-02-05 16:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Daphne H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the poor guy some ideas!! You women want to believe us men are mind readers, but were not. How would you like it if we told you to surprise us all the time it's very frustrating.
2007-02-05 16:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by firshizel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been with him for just a little over a year, I would cut him some slack and give him hints.
Just tell him three things that you want and let him decide which one he wants to get you.
2007-02-05 16:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say just tell him. Because if you see him freaking out that means he has no clue in what to get you. And what if he surprises you, but in the end you are dissapointed. Then you'll regret not telling him anything. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-05 16:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by VANESSA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋