I never thought that I would end up being with someone who has a disability, but I've fallen in love with a woman who has a disability. She has a four year old daughter as well. It's amazing how a person can grow. On our first date, I worried about where I was going to park and how to react (i.e. should I open the car door for her, or will she think I'm trying to "help" her too much, etc). Now, I usually forget that she has a disability. I don't even think about it. I've had my own PERSONALITY disabillity issues, but she has stuck with me and loves me. So, can anyone share their experiences about dating someone with a physical disability, or if they've fallen for someone who has one? I would love to hear some good stories. I'm thankful for every day I have with her.
2007-02-05 07:46:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS, I'm not trying to get a pat on the back. I just want to hear some stories. I've been contemplating about how life works out. I would never stay with her just because she has a disability. She is a grown woman, and before I met her, she was a single mother. She is perfectly capable of living a happy, independent life. As a matter of fact, she has acheived more than me so far.
2007-02-05 07:52:45 · update #1
Yes I would. I am married and have a disability and my husband is great and supports me 100%. I shattered my left elbow by falling and the first surgery was not a success so now I am having a second in a month or so and pray that it works. It is hard I have NO use of that arm and makes my life even the simplest things harder for me but I will not give up! People stare at me because it looks deformed and that hurts,but my husband is a rock. Blessings to you both.
2007-02-05 07:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodman, God bless you. Having a incapacity myself i will say that the female you like is the luckiest lady in the international. the form you have unfold out your heart is a testomony to the potential of the human spirit to be sure the guy as a man or woman and not as disabled. I wish i might desire to be as chuffed as you as maximum women persons I even have met are at superb uncomfortable being around disabled people. with a bit of luck, those people will strengthen as you have. I wish I had stable thoughts to make it easier to be attentive to, yet yours is the superb I even have ever heard.
2016-10-01 11:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would really depend on the disability and how severe, my best friend has a disability, she lives a full married life and has 2 children, but her disability in physical and it permits her to still live and enjoy a normal life.
2007-02-05 07:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comendations to you for taking the step....
Me yes i would, having said that I think that so long as i could engage someone on a mental level everything is irrespective, I would not go to the point to say looks dont matter, of course they help, however end of the day these fade and we all get older, it is much better to be with a person who stimultes you mentally that someone who stimulates you physically, after all if you plan to live out your days with them you certainly need to be stimulated mentally and gain a beneift from the relationship.
anyway thats me not everyone is in the same boat and i understand that, and that is the case in point here.
2007-02-05 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that I wouldn't let a disability blind me to the other person, but until I'm in that situation I don't know.
It's excellent that you're such a person. I wish you and your lady nothing but the best.
Good question, btw.
2007-02-05 07:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U almost made me cry, how sweet. Love is very powerful and If i reall cared for a person then sure i would date a disabled person.
2007-02-05 08:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for taking this on.
However, if your relationship doesn't work out, don't keep it going BECAUSE of her disability (i.e. out of pity). That's no good either.
People always SAY things like this don't matter. But we are human and they usually do. Congrats for being a good person.
2007-02-05 07:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter dated a guy with cerebral palsy, it was not severe enough to put him in a wheelchair, but it did slow him down quite a bit. She didn't see his limp, she saw that he called her everyday, and always ashed what SHE wanted, instead of just saying, "lets go..."
2007-02-05 07:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know, I admire you and it is refreshing to hear someone speak with such love for their mate. I wish you the best and congratulations in finding the love you needed.
2007-02-05 07:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋