Women out there: What do you do for a living and do you feel it effects your home life?

Question

Does your career sometimes get in the way of your home life and marriage? Do you sometimes think..."Where have all the cowboys gone?" :)

Answer 1

Yes, career gets in the way of marriage and home life...particularly when you have children. I gave up my career path when my oldest turned 5 and I've never regretted it for a moment.

Answer 2

Oh, most definitely! I have had that feeling! For many years, I worked in Marketing/Advertising - very stressful and demanding job even if you don't have a family!

I am a single mother (divorced) to an 11 yo daughter. My job was making me nuts - too much pressure, too many deadlines, being almost forced to work overtime and such.

I finally quit that job! I found a job as the office manager for a Psychiatrist. I have NO STRESS here, when the day is done, it's done - no calls at home, no working late, no coming in extra early. It's much better and I have more flexibility as far as being at school for events, etc.

I've kind of learned to pick my own flowers - I don't wait on a man to do for me anymore. I do for myself. I don't know where the cowboys have gone, but I've turned out to be a pretty darn good Cowgirl!

Answer 3

I am a legal assistant. Yes, it does affect my home life. I'm tired after a long day at work and a lot of times there's not much left of me for my husband. Our children are grown so it has become easier, but I miss my husband a lot during the week.

I married a cowboy, so no, I don't ask where have all the cowboys gone!

Good question!

Answer 4

yes. my job title is unimportant in this. I would rather be home.
I think women should have the option of choosing careers or not, just like men should. Due to unwise choices early in life, I am now stuck working. If I could go back in time, I would get a grand education, make a lot of money in a hurry, and set myself up for retirement as soon as possible so I could enjoy life instead of trading my precious hours for dollars. But, that's just me.
Anyway, it has no effect on my home life because my spouse and I share the house chores, etc.

Answer 5

In the past, my career often left me physically and psychologically drained. I put in regular overtime and people came to rely on me because I would get things done right. Oftentimes I found interpersonal dynamics more exhausting than the work itself. Work ethic is very important to me and I have, from time to time, run into 'speed bumps' when working with people who don't have much of any work ethic. As a result I slept a lot when I wasn't working or had little energy. There's nothing wrong with a woman having a career, but I am happier now staying at home because *I* want to not because I have to. This is a decision my fiance and I both support. This way he gets more of my time and attention, plus I'm in a better mood.

Answer 6

I am an administrative assistant. It affects my home life because I feel unappreciated and undervalued at work so when I go home I think I expect more from my husband as far as appreciation goes. It is stressful to go to work and feel as though you are being put down or disregarded constantly and it can weigh heavily on how you feel about yourself, which in turn affects how you feel as a wife/mother. For instance - the other day after leaving work, feeling unappreciated already, I went to the grocery store and the cashier disrespected me by throwing the change at me and all of the coins fell on the floor. It made me feel like garbage - to have that happen and to have had such an awful day at work. So, when I got home and my husband didn't tell me how great I was, it made me sad and disappointed when in reality it had nothing to do with him at all.

Answer 7

I'm an estimating coordinator.... and i can say that yes sometimes it does effect my marriage .. just cause I'm always here late in the summer and have functions in the fall to winter so... I'm not home much.... but i also don;t have any kids yet so it really doesn't bother me, but once the kids come then it will have t change or i;ll have to find a new job.

Answer 8

I'm a chemist. I don't believe it interferes with my home life. Career only takes 40 hours a week. That leaves 128 hours to sleep, cook, clean, and socialize with other house occupants. I don't have any kids, and I think if I did, that would change my answer significantly. I think a lot of people who's work interferes with their home life need to turn off their TV's and use that time to spend with their families.

Answer 9

yes! absolutely! i went to collage at Loyola university for emergency medicine/paramedic. i loved my job so much i put every thing i had into my work.. i felt important and successful but i noticed after several years that i wasn't able to enjoy the things that were going on at home. i missed out on a lot . and soon my family started to enjoy things with out me . i fond out that even though i was doing well with my career my home life was slipping. my children's grades and attitude s went down the drain and soon i was on speed dile for there Principal. i also missed spending time with my husband and my home life became a rat race. what little time i was there. i made the decision to quit work and stay home for a while and see if i could improve the relationship between my kids and husband i and i . it worked! everything got better with a lot of hard work but i fond out that i am happier and more successful at home with my family than out there trying to make a buck I'm so happy that i decided to permanently become an at home mom and I'm loving every minute of it.

Answer 10

I'm a stay at home mom. I feel like I don't get the credit I deserve sometimes. I thik my husband thinks I stay at home at watch t.v. all day. When I have a 5 year old and a 4 mo. old and LOTS of laundry and dishes and just stuff to do he comes home from work and I don't expect hom to do anything thing b/c his job is outside of the home but i would like some appreation from time to time.