want more touching and arousing so i can reach an orgasim as easily as my husband, and not offend him or hurt his feelings. he is slightly older than i. and he is gone on the road and he has no problem with anything is it me or what?
2007-02-05 07:14:58 · 21 answers · asked by Linny Pooh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell him. Also have you tried adult toys? A vibrating bullet? IT does wonders, only takes about 30 seconds for an orgasm. You can have sex with your husband while you or he uses the bullet at the same time. If you would like more information, please feel free to email me. Good luck, and happy ending.
2007-02-05 07:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can is communicate during sex.It sounds crazy but it makes your sex life better.Never be ashamed to ask or suggest things when it comes down to trying to spice up your sex life.You and your husband of course have different bodies so getting an orgasm is not going to be as easy for you as it is for him.Try watching flicks and you both touch each other.Or if you can go to a female strip club and when you get home do the things that you saw.No it's not you there's nothing wrong to add more spice into the bedroom.Good Luck
2007-02-05 07:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you've had naughty thoughts, but weren't brave enough to ask. This way you lure him into helping you. It brings out the "Mr. Fixit" in him. I am sensing that you have something specific in mind. Tell him, in graphic detail, what you want him to perform. Challenge him to tame his wild manhood, like he would lose a bet if he climaxed first. Avoid being pushy or demanding, unless he likes that kind of thing. Make lots of noise and provide feedback when things are going well. If he does something painful, make note and offer an alternative. Maybe you would like to explore. Make an invitation with a date and time. It builds anticipation and a willingness to try. Remember that men are by nature, visual. Let him watch/see what you do or feel.
2007-02-05 07:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by emberstoashes_04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication in bed is absolutely essential. Put his hands where you want him to touch you. Be a little naughty and tell him to touch me here or kiss me there. They get turned on when you ask them to do something. It should not offend or hurt his feelings. How is he ever going to know you want more play time if you don't tell him.
Worked for me and we have a blast!
2007-02-05 07:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very very carefully. Talk to him - but not at the time when you are doing it. Just tell him you'd like to try some new stuff. Don't tell him BETTER stuff. Just news stuff. If you have an adult video store around a lot of them have instructional videos with neat ideas in them.
ASSURE him he is what you want. Try to side-step the issue of you being unsatisfied and tell him you wanna do cool stuff for him too.
Make it exciting and he'll happily join you.
2007-02-05 07:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men think that they know more than they really do. And if your not honest and tell him or show him he will never know. I think I would tell himexactly what you said. That explained it well. And no you are not the only one. It takes alot of foreplay for most women and if you doan't say something you will be very unhappy in this relationship.
2007-02-05 07:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and have a chat with him about it. Since he is your husband, the two of you should be perfectly comfortable discussing your sex life, so just tell him what you'd like him to do and ask him if there's anything he'd like you to do differently.
2007-02-05 07:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him what you not only want but need. Tell him in a nice way, like I like to be gently kissed on the back it gets me really excited. I believe if you want to have a and to be a really good lover you need to communicate what you want and need. Good luck!!
2007-02-05 07:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you guys are going to play a game. One night tell him to do to you what he wants you to do to him. Then next day (time) you tell him its your turn to do to him what you want him to do to you. You may learn something that he likes in the process. And he wont know that you were not being totally satisfied. GOOD Luck!
2007-02-05 07:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you guys or making love guide his hands or just softly tell him what and how you want it and I'm sure he'll do it. Thats how I do it with my husband and he's not offended at all.
2007-02-05 07:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋