calling all phsycatrist, or very mature women?

Question

I think my husband is playing with my head. Or maybe he really needs help. He ownes his own business , and he wants me to work for him , but now get this- he said that i couldnt be added on the insurance cause i was too big or over weight, which is true. He has said , he will have to lay me off when they do yearly % of the employees. (Have to have 3/4 employees on insurance to get coverage) I also have high blood pressure and alot of anxiety , he stressess me out bad !!! he doen't pay me now, and i've asked him 2 , he says he can't pay me 4 nothing ??? i do alot of running 4 him , he says im lazy, but i'm not!! I;m tired of him sayng things like that 2 me . i know i need 2 stand up 2 him but how ? he is a very needy person , likes to be waited on and stuff like that. help ..................everybody would'nt believe how he really is, only very few people know how he really
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Answer 1

Yes but you know him right? and as for using you he is most defiantly. as well as being abusive, and controlling, If he is not willing to pay you for the work you do for his business, then do not do it, if necessary go and find your self a paying job. or do volunteer work, If you are not there he can not call on you. The only way you can show him your worth, is for him to have to pay some one to do the thing he doesn't pay for. Now is a good time to remind your self you can only be a door mat if you lay down, I know you have several medical problems and he is not helping, so Do some thing you enjoy and for your self. and you may see a lot of your problems disappear. as well I would talk to a councillor about your low self esteem and ways to deal with a needy husband. So start today get help for your self, because no one else in that house is interested in taking care of you they just want to take

Answer 2

There is no reason for him to sit back and not pay you for work you are doing for him. Even if he believes you do nothing, you should get something other than a raise in blood pressure and hurt feelings. The way it sounds, you are being treated unfair. You should simply tell him that either he pays you or you arnt going to keep the job. Even if you are over weight and have high blood pressure, insurance still should cover you, all you have to do is try. My whole family has a weight problem and even high blood pressure and not one of them was not accepted by an insurance company. I think you should try to better yourself by getting yourself out of a stressful situation by talking with your husband nicely and tell him why its an unhealthy situation and you would like to work something out.
good luck :)

Answer 3

Hello I guess I will classify myself as mature... here is the deal all of the insurance is correct. However you need to consider yourself as self employed too... he has outsourced your services... however it also seems that you may be in a abusive relationship and I would suggest you evaluate that. Now when it comes to standing up to him... walk up to him and demand what you know is to be true and correct.
You can do it!
Oh yeah have him check to see if there is a state health pool he could join up with... could save lots of $... also i suggest that he looks into several companies for insurance.

Answer 4

I don't know about the insurance thing but your husband is not treating you with respect.
Go on strike. Let him see how things would be without your help. Maybe then he'll realize how much you do for him.
If you're not willing to do that, get a job elsewhere. Find a company that offers insurance. Good luck to you and don't let him get away with treating you disrespectfully.

Answer 5

Since he's such a "needy" person, let his employees handle his madness.

You are his wife, and should be respected in all aspects of his life including his business.

If I were his employee, I'd quit. You should too.

Answer 6

ok i dont see why him callin u names and all has to do w u working for him but im sry, no husband would b talkn to me like that and getin away w it, rather its true or not that u r over weight isnt his problem, he should love u for who u r and wouldnt want u to change, just change for ur self, but if he doesnt stop w the name calling id leave him cuz it could cause alot of damege on ur self asteem leaval.

Answer 7

i understand what you are going through. stand up to him now, before things get worse. and, unfortunately, they may get worse. i've always heard that if you are told negative things about yourself long enough, you start to believe them. Dont take it, they are not worth it, usually.

Answer 8

Sound like a real dick, if my husband did stuff like that I'd leave him.