You don't want to marry them because of their family. They are rude, some in jail, trashy(throw garbage in the yard) some don't shower or wash their hands. Sponge off one of the rich family members. Also, did I mention some are abusive and negligent of children. You love the person so much, you can't imagine ever being without them. Also, they hit you but they are in therapy for it. Also, got attacked by the child of the person that is in jail and they are 14 and on probation. I don't think I can ever bring myself to marry my boyfriend, because I really don't want his family ever over our house and I can't really stomach the site of them. Some members are very nice but hardly any! O and I know my family is not a picnic AT ALL, but far better then his!
2007-02-05 07:04:40 · 15 answers · asked by The Hollow Girl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok I mean his mom is actually in jail for numerous DUIs and his half sister (her daughter) is the one that attacked me. He is well aware of how I feel about his family and my family has never been so rude to him as they have me.
2007-02-05 07:40:36 · update #1
I think we all have certain standard we stick to. We are all programed to view some things as wrong. We use our childhood experiences to base many of our decisions we make as adults. When these elements are not visible in a person you are involved with, you begin to see some of the above issues surface. Like you say all families are not perfect, but when there are concerns over Domestic abuse and Family violence, anyone with a reasonable amount of common sense would get the gut feelings telling them to re- think or re-evaluate any decision that would affect not only their future, but the future of a long line of Family members doomed to many generations of disfunction. STAY AWAY FROM THIS FAMILY.
2007-02-05 07:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Krambala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone, you're marrying their family, like it or not. The problems you are describing will not go away.
Since this person has already smacked you, I would be reluctant to make a life long commitment to him. Good for him that he's in therapy, but you'd better make sure this problem is 100% fixed before you marry.
I hope you are being an advocate for the children if this family. If they are being abused and neglected, cps needs to know. If you're afraid to do it because of your fiance, do it anonymously. These kids deserve better and I have a feeling you do too.
2007-02-05 07:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No family is perfect and sane. But one thing is for sure, your boyfriend himself looks like he has problems of his own, so because of that alone, I wouldn't marry him. Second... If his family is that troubled.. I would say....Stay Away from all of them including him.
And about loving him and not being able to live without him even though he hits you but is in therapy is another way of saying "I am insecure of myself and have no self love or respect" If you really know what you want and love yourself, then leave him. Once you do, believe me, someone better will come along and you will not have to be in a situation like this anymore.
Good Luck. I hope you make a smart decision !
2007-02-05 07:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this guy. There's an old saying that when you marry someone, you marry their family as well. His family sounds terrible and abusive. Who hit you by the way? Was it your boyfriend? Regardless this sounds like a bad situation and you need to free yourself from this dysfunction or you will end up being pulled down into their mess.
2007-02-05 07:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart and it sounds like your heart is telling you to move on. The apple rarely falls far from the tree, so keep in mind that if you have kids with this man you're going to have to raise kids against the odds. And if he already had a kid in jail is he really the kind of father you're looking for for your kids? You deserve more. You deserve stability and someone who will not add drama to your life.
2007-02-05 07:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, I was ok until he hit you and is in therapy for it. There is NO reason for either of you to hit the other. The old saying," the nut doesn't fall far from the tree." I'm sure you love him but I'm sure there is someone that would never imagine hitting you.
2007-02-05 07:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Luvatlanta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His family is relevant to the question of whether you should marry him. So this guy hit you, also? The nicest your life can be with that guy, will probably not be as nice as it can with someone else.
Those badboys can seem attractive in a primal sort of way, but the characteristics they possess are not strengths.
2007-02-05 07:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by dinotheorist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 09:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you marry someone, u marry his family as well. If u love him alot then explain to him how u feel and make sure u live far far away from them and dont want them around. Its sad but it affects th e 2 of u alot
2007-02-05 07:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your boyfriend know? or, are you hiding this revelation from him? If your not happy now, then your right. Your not going to be happy later either.
If he's different than his family, and can see their behavior like you can, then maybe he can distance himself from his family. But, if you need him to change his life, and just choose you, ya'll need to end it on a good note, and move on. Cause family is family.
2007-02-05 07:10:48 · answer #10 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋