Why would someone whose gay not believe?

Question

in gay marriage? I don't understand why he wouldn't want that right when you should have it? Can someone whose gay who might feel that way try & explain or is he the only one who feels this way. Gay Bashers don't even bother responding, your opinion is worth less than you are.

I'm asking again, if you are not gay or not a supporter DON"T ANSWER

Answer 1

I don't oppose gay marriage. I just don't believe in passing laws willy nilly, because they always involve unintended consequences. Good ideas rarely make good laws. Better that there not be a law addressing gay marriage than one that can be misapplied or invite legal entanglements more far-reaching than two people getting hitched. Churches can do whatever they please, people can create their own ceremonies if they like, and any two people can draw up a legally binding agreement complete with power of attorney to cover any of their concerns. So we can live without a law for or against gay marriage (and I say this as one who once did want to marry my sweetie du jour).

Answer 2

I ran into this as well, when I was lobbying for same-sex marriage in Oklahoma. Unfortunately state question 711 passed and now no two people have the same right as any legally married couple. (that includes common-law male/female relationships) Marriage is simply not important to some people. There are heterosexual people that do not ever want to get married. They are fine just being with someone in a committed relationship forever, without a piece of paper. Marriage is not an institution enacted by God. I am not a "God" basher, but church ceremonies can happen all they want and will not be legally binding without applying for a marriage license. The civil ceremony is always legally binding. This is why same-sex marriage doesn't pass because people think they will have to allow gay people to be married in their church. That is not true. Anyone can get married at the courthouse or in a "gay" church. I live in Oklahoma (I know!) and we have several gay friendly churches in Oklahoma City, Norman and Tulsa.

Answer 3

Good question. I admit that for the longest time I was of "no opinion" but I think that is because I've never been in a relationship long enough for it to be an issue with me. I understand how those who are in a comitted relationship desire equal and legal protection under the law. However, as a long-term single gay man, there are other issues that are more important to me.

I also agree with thosewerethedays in the unforseeable consequences of making certain laws.

Answer 4

Well, I'm not gay and not a gay basher. I have a theory though...

Most (not all) homosexuals are or appear to be somewhat anti-christianity. The flag that I've seen raised for homosexuals is an upside down rainbow. The rainbow was a promise that God made with humanity that he would never allow there to be a worldwide flood again. So having an upside down rainbow is essentially seen as presenting the fickle finger of defiance towards God.

Since marriage is an institution enacted by God, many homosexuals, I reiterate not ALL, would not marry because it would give credit or celebrate a god that will not recognize them for their lifestyle choice.

I'm throwing this up as a theory. I'm not stating that this is fact. I'm not bashing homosexuals or homosexuality. Just answering a question based on knowledge collected from interaction with different people. If you are insulted. I apologize, there was NO insult intended.

I defended homosexuality as not being a disease in another question and Yahoo told me that someone was insulted.

Answer 5

I have a gay male friend and he told them that he just isn't into marriage, plain and simple and even though I am straight, I do believe that if a gay couple wants to marry and make a commitment to each other then they should be able to. Just like straight people have the right to, I don't by the bull that "just because it is in the bible" either.

Answer 6

Marriage is not a right in itself, but it is a right under the First Amendment. That amendment provides that people have the right, the free will to associate with whom they choose, and marriage is just a very special, specific association between two people.

The gvmt should treat everyone as equals, gay/straight, married or just living together as these are the associations that these individuals have chosen for themselves.

It's not if gvmt should "give" rights to gays, it's that it should refrain from specifying that some associations are more equal than others.

Gvmt should get out of the marriage business.

Answer 7

My ex did not support gay marriage.

It wasn't that she was completely opposed to the idea - it was not that she specifically campaigned against it - but she believed that there were more important causes for the GLBT rights movement. She didn't support the institution of legal/state marriage to begin with, and considered our focus (as a community) on securing marriage rights to be biased in favor of rich, white, as-normative-as-possible gay couples.

Answer 8

The few that I have heard from that aren't in favor of it are either still struggling with accepting their sexuality as it compares beside their religious beliefs or are simply unwilling to "put all they own on the line" in case they ended up getting a divorce.

Answer 9

I beleive in my straight friends marriages, and they would believe in mine were it available.

Answer 10

I am straight and I believe that gay marriage and homosexual behavior are abominations to this civilization under God. The wicked will have their day in hell, and they will not be spared unless they turn away from their wicked ways, and repent. It is against natural law for men to lie down with another man, and for women to lie down with another woman, and God will judge those who defy HIS natural law. Gays need to stop turning away from God and beg for forgiveness on their knees if they want to spend eternity in heaven, as opposed to the place they will go if they do not repent, namely hell.