i don't want sex, why?

Question

3 months into my pregnancy i lost the desire to have sex. People kept telling me "it will come back don't worry just give it time" well my baby is 4 months old now and i still don't want to have sex its like i can't get turned on anymore NOTHING does it! and its causing issues between my husband and myself, i mean i want to get turned on but its like my drive is broken

HELP! does anyone have any suggestions?

My husband been very supportive and we are both stumped, I've made sure he knew it wasn't anything is was or wasn't doing, and we have tried things together but still nothing.

I'm also on birth control for the first time, i was wondering if that might have and effect on the matter.

Answer 1

well, is your husband handsome to you? Is he romantic? If he is and you still are not into it you could be suffering a mild form of post partum depression or have some chemical imbalance and might talk it over with your doctor. One thing you could also try is vitamin E. I might also ask do you let some one babysit and go out alone? Do you have quality time together? Do you have candle lit dinners or candle lit baths together? Do you still have cuddle time together when the baby is sleeping? Do you massage each other? Do you give each other little notes often just saying I love you? How often do you say I love you or kiss with special tenderness? It is the little things that need taken care of for a person to feel attractive, appreciated, and loved. Please do try to pay more attention to each others needs and make an extra effort to do something special before attempting making love to your husband. Have a night out or a candle lit dinner in. Turn off the tv, the phone (at least the answering machine down) and the lights and you got it - more candles lit! (remember to place them safely - tealights are great) Turn on the music and dance together in the living room. Dress up for all this, or at least dress sexy in some night attire. Make yourself feel beautiful and then attempt to make him feel special and in all that you should regain your desire. The Bible declares that once married the two should become one and should not deny each other, it is important to keep that intimacy and closeness in your marriage. Good luck.

Answer 2

well i think it is still OK but that is a long time it might be a hormone or chemical inbalance caused by the preg. i would get checked just in case if you are fine then what gets me hot is when my man does really nice things for me and doesn't push me to have sex with him
and maybe you two need to get out for a night just to have couple time it always helps cus i know how much little kids drain your energy so plan a night just for the two of you and tell your guy that you will try but there might not be sex if you cant getting turned on
but you want to have a night away for the two of you cus you care for him and you want to do something special for him
i hope that helped

Answer 3

i had a hard time after having my son, due to complications, etc. getting excited about anything related to sex. your husband needs to understand what's going on (tell him) & maybe help a bit more around the house, with the baby, whatever. maybe you are just feeling overwhelmed, or even too tired. remember to take care of yourself, do something to make YOU feel good.

Answer 4

U must go and talk 2 a sexologist
I dunno whether it is a problem of hormones or wat

If u see u r fav actor and if u b come excited then u know the ans. its just tat u have 2 spend more time 2 u r hubby or else he cud b also very uch sexually frustated afterwards

Answer 5

talk to your doctor- your life has changed and so has your body- it could be ppost - partem depression but it is more likely your new role as a mother that has taken presidence over your libido.
Your hubby needs attention to but also needs to be understanding

Answer 6

you might be having some hormonal issues. or suffering from post partum syndrome...i'd go see a doctor.

Answer 7

Who doesn't want to have sex????