Me and my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. And we couldn't be happier, but the thing is we both have this friend who isn't happy for us. Before me and eli started dating, our friend used to say that if eli could be with someone, she'd hope itd be me. But after me and my bf started dating, our friend started being very hostel to me. Everytime she'd see us together, she would look at me & roll her eyes &start flirting w/eli. 1 time she actually pushed me out of the way so she could hug him. So after about two weeks of her doing that to me, I'd decided that I had had enough. So I called her and started yelling at her. We ended up having a huge fight (not a fist fight though). So she calls my boyfriend crying and saying that I was a b****. She told him to chose her over me, he didn't of course. But I feel like I jepordized their friendship. Was I wrong to call her to give her a piece of my mind?
2007-02-05 06:45:25 · 16 answers · asked by sugar & spice 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Doesnt matter if you were right or wrong.
By doing what you did you actually managed to expose the underhand side to her nature.
You are winning
2007-02-12 10:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't wrong for calling her however you yelling at her really didn't accomplish what you needed to get accomplished. You needed to explain to her calmly that you're with Eli and that you and he are happy with one another. Explain to her that you'd like for all of you to remain friends but if that's not possible then you understand. Ok, when she was telling you if Eli could be with someone she hoped it could or would be you, wasn't exactly the truth and it was a mind game. You missed your que because she was expecting you to say, no Eli should be with someone like you. She wasn't honest from the very beginning and because she wasn't you ended up with Eli and now she's dealing with the hurt. You need to sit and talk to her on another level. Sit and explain to her that before you and Eli got together she thought that you'd be perfect for him but you now feel that she wasn't honest. Tell her that you want her to be honest with you, come out and ask her if she's attracted to Eli and does it bother her to see the two of you together. Let her know that you won't get upset by her answers and that they will stay between the two of you not even Eli will know. Then you also need to talk to Eli and let him know that the way this person treats you is a concern for you because she was your friend before you started dating him. Ask him his opinion of the situation and how he feels you should possibly handle it.
2007-02-05 15:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE ! I'm suprised you let her get away with it for a couple of weeks. You have good character, but enough is enough. She needed to be stopped. If she keeps it up and your boyfriend does nothing, then you have a problem. This girl is trouble and there are so many good people out there that can be a true friend to you. My suggestion...Dump that friendship. She will obviously cut your throat. What happens if you and Eli break up? would you be able to hang out with her? No, I bet you wouldn't. Therefore, end the friendship now before it destroys your relationship with you and your boyfriend. Then you both lose. Trust me on this.
2007-02-05 15:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by RJsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obvious has feelings for Eli. She couldn't be honest w/ you because she thought you might get mad cause you did too. She would be happy for you because that would mean Eli would be around her s well. Then she flirts with him because she likes him
2007-02-05 15:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by silent_shadows23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong. She is obviously jealous of you and probably liked your boyfriend before he became your boyfriend. She needs to decided what is more important: acting immature or being your friend. However, it would probably be weird for you with her as your friend now anyway, since you know how she feels about your man.
2007-02-05 14:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by hollyrenee21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously has a huge problem, it's too bad she couldn't be honest with you about her feelings, and yelling at her couldn't have helped, but at the same time, the problem needed to be addressed somehow, I'm sorry if you lost your friend over this, but she obviously is not a very good friend if she was trying to break you up and take your happiness away...
2007-02-05 14:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, girls like that are not really friends at all, they grow up to become homewreckers. Would you actually trust her alone with him, who knows what she would try to do. Besides it sounds like she is totally crushing for this guy, and if you care for him don't stand for it.
At the same time it sounds like eli is rather enjoying it himself, its like having to girls fighting for him. If he actually cares for you then he should of put a stop to it a lot sooner than two weeks!!!
Good luck
2007-02-13 14:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by yep-it-is-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't wrong. She's after your man. She's not your friend. End all contact with her immediately, and tell your bf to choose either her or you, but that if he wants to stay with you he shouldn't talk to her anymore.
2007-02-05 15:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by rklst9pitt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it wasnt her place to do this to you and you'r boyfriend you totally had the right to do this. I mean if she was doing these things to you then she really wasnt a good friend
2007-02-12 16:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Emily L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you had every right to do that. i would have done the same thing if i were you. dont worry bout it if she is like that he probally wouldnt want a friend like her!
2007-02-12 22:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥hemakesmesmile♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋