Especially when a bisexual woman is already involved with a man but still wants to be involved with a woman. I'm not speaking on infidelity here. The man consents to his g/f or wife to explore her passions. Ladies, those of you who are lesbian do you personally view this situation as infidelity? Please share your opinions with me ladies.
2007-02-05 06:41:34 · 12 answers · asked by aubrie27 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a bi-sexual woman married to a man. My husband knows that i am bi and he is okay with that. Now, like most men, he has his little fantasy of us having a threesome with another woman, however, that's just what it is - a fantasy. He would be perfectly fine if I wanted to go spend the night with a woman without him but I will not do this because it would be cheating just like if I was to sleep with another man. As a bi-sexual person, I can't help who I fall in love with. I was attracted to men and women, just fell in love with a man.
After reading some of the responses below, I have to add this: Being Gay, Lesbian or Bi is SO much more than just sex! I have a gay son and I knew he was gay when he was 5 years old. He had no idea what sex was when he was 5! There are far too many misconceptions on what it means to be GLBTQ. "Every lesbian plays softball and does not wear make-up, all gay men are nelly, bi people are fence sitters that can't make up their minds" - that is all a bunch of BS! Get educated, it's not all about sex!
2007-02-05 06:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lovemychi 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I'm not really into labels, but I guess I would be labeled a lesbian by an outsider, and I've been involved with my fair share of bisexual women.
I don't frown upon bisexuals at all, I feel that bisexuals are less possessive and more open with their sexuality. I don't want to be tied down, so if I'm looking for a person to spend time with, and not necessarily date, I'm probably going to search for a bisexual woman, rather than a lesbian.
That's just me though, maybe I just haven't found the right lesbian.
but, I'm not likely to get involved with a woman who is already with a man because she would be likely to want to be involved w/ someone on the side when she was w/ me as well.
2007-02-05 07:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
IN PEOPLE EYES WHO ARE LOOKING IN ON THE RELATIONSHIP MAY THINK SO. IF THE MAN KNOWS AND IS OKAY WITH IT THEN ITS NOT INFIDELITY BECAUSE U ARE NOT CHEATING IF HE KNOWS. HE HE IS NOT OKAY WITH YOU BEING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, BY U BEING INVOLVED WITH HIM AND THE SERIOUSNESS OF THE RELATIONSHIP, IT IS INFIDELITY IF U PROCEED IN ENCOUNTERS WITH A WOMAN WHEN U KNOW HE DOES NOT APPROVE. SOME MEN DO NOT LIKE SHARING REGARDLESS IF ITS A MALE OR FEMALE, BUT MOST MEN LOVE THE IDEA OF 2 WOMEN BEING TOGETHER AND OFTEN WANT TO JOIN IN.
2007-02-13 03:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by cute_dimples2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a lesbian and i know i wouldnt date a person who identifies as bisexual the biggest slap in the face i could ever get would be my lady leaving me or cheating on me with a man. The bi girls i have met are confused or just scared to fully come out...i want someone who knows what they are and who they are...not saying there arent bis like that out there...just saying from my experiences.
2007-02-05 08:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Hen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm poly, so no, I don't view this situation as infidelity because there is no breech of trust.
I am uncomfortable with the notion that can accompany this sort of arrangement that lesbian sex is somehow less than sex - ie, many men would "allow" their female significant others to "explore" with other women but not with other men. This is not necessarily a component of such an arrangement, but can be.
I've had sex with women who were attached to men. I wouldn't want an ongoing relationship with a woman who was attached to a man, but that's just me.
2007-02-05 07:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Salek 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I usually don't like to judge a book by it's cover so I would get to know you before just writing you off for wearing a necklace. Though my first impression would be: trashy. I'm not sure why, but anything with the Play Boy emblem just screams "trashy" to me
2016-03-29 06:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what kind of relationship this girl has with this man. Did they promise each other exclusiveness or not ? If not, I don't see a problem.
For me there is no difference wether the relation is m/f, f/f or m/m. If you're in an exclusive m/f relation being with either m or f would be cheating.
2007-02-05 08:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi-sexual and currently with a man. None of my lesbian friends have made any kind of view either way. I'm curious to see what kind of responses you get.
2007-02-05 06:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Blah blah blah, have their cake and eat it too, confused, can't make up their mind.
This is all just a bunch of angry Lesbian talk because they are pissed that we get more dates then they do.
It has nothing to do about not wanting to fully come out, or wanting our cake or being confused.
For me it is the fact that I like to ave my face burried in a kitty kitty while a nice big c o c k it stuffing me at the same time.
It has nothing to do with love, it is sexual, hence, "bi-sexual"
Bi people enjoy sex with BOTH sexes (for me preferrable at the same time).
The angry lesbians need to get a life and just accept the fact that bi's will always be around.
2007-02-05 10:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well I am a lesbian, I don't care if you are bisexual or a she male. I don't care as long as you leave me alone and don't get me mixed up with your personal life. I don't judge based on orientation. But if you get up in my face, you will fall flat on it. peace
2007-02-12 05:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by Goodbye 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋