Compliment I gave to a friend...instead of thanking me.. she agreed with me....?

Question

....i gave my friend a compliment, very sincere and I meant it, and instead of just saying thanks; she agreed with me. Just threw me off. I was always taught just to say "thank-you" when given a compliment. Just rubbed me the wrong way. Anybody else have such an expereince. You give somebody a compliement and they just agree with you instead of saying thankyou? Just curious of others experiences in the same situation. Thanks

I am not a "hater" or being petty. The compliment I gave her, was one that has been given to me, many times in my life, and never once did i just sit there and agree; i said thank-you and changed the topic. And no, she wasn't joking.

Answer 1

Her self esteem is high and you are just as high. Keep doing what you are doing to help others know their true potentials. As far as your friend, that's sort of funny, is it not?
Either way you are very kind, don't change that...

Answer 2

Maybe she thought she was being funny? Some people have a hard time accepting compliments, and they react weird, like not saying anything, or trying to dismiss whatever it was you complimented them on, or even just agreeing. I've done that a few times, always felt stupid later, thinking why did I not just say thank you and move on?

Or she could be totally conceited and just thought you were pointing out the obvious, lol! Who knows?

Answer 3

Yes it has happened. However don't let it bother you, after all you gave her the compliment because you wanted to not because you had to. You felt good about giving it at first even though it wasn't appreciated. From this point on, limit the compliments that you give your friend and if she asks any questions just explain to her that when you give her compliments it would be nice if she showed you some sort of appreciation.

Answer 4

YUCK!
sounds like someone is a bit full of themselves.
I would probably lay off the compliements to her since it is obvious that she already believes all of the kind things thatyou have to say about her.
What this should do for you is help you to re evaluate this friendship. Is this kind of thing indicative of the kind of friend she is?
If so, you might consider changing her 'friend' status to associates.
It has been my experience that these types of people 'show' themselves in other areas too.
bet she does not have many friends, NOW YOU KNOW WHY!

Answer 5

You gave her a compliment, I can only guess you meant it. Your compliment was accurate - so she would be correct in sharing your opinion and agreeing with you.

You compliment someone to make them feel better, perhaps they think they are useless or ugly or stupid and you go above and beyond to make them feel better about themselves - your goal was to get them to see your point - not get reaped with Rewards yourself.

You made her feel better, she heard what you said and thought about it and was convinced as shown by her agreement. "Yeah you're right" = Thank you. Not everyone says bless you - it doesn't mean they don't care about your immortal soul.

Answer 6

hey - at least your friend doesn't lack self-esteem :) It's different - but not necessarily wrong. You don't state what the compliment is. I mean - if it was her hair and she just spent a couple hundred having it done - she was probably right to just agree with you that it looks good :)

Answer 7

I understand it is apart of respect but why are you upset about it it's ok for her to agree but she should have said thank you too

Answer 8

it totally depends
i agree and say thank you and nothing is wrong with that

dont be such a hater

Answer 9

Nowadays, you can often hear instead of thanks, "Oh, yes. I knew that." my friends do that often, and sometimes I do it too, but usually when we are only joking.

Answer 10

yeah its been done but it never happens again !