2007-02-05 06:34:04 · 37 answers · asked by weebobby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you feel ready, also if you have children you'll need to consider their point of view as well.
2007-02-05 06:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel comfortable. I've been widowed 6 years and was only 23 when it happened. I started dating somebody within a month because he was there, and i was terrified of being alone after 8 years of being with the same person. After that relationship ended I met several people who I thought might be worth a shot, but eventually shied away out of fear of the loss again. Took me about 4 years total to finally feel like I was ready for someone new. I've got to imagine it's different for everyone. The longer you've been with somebody, the more history, kids, all play into the time it takes to heal and move on.
2007-02-06 06:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time is when you feel ready to. It is different for everybody. Only you will know the answer to this, and perhaps should start out slowly.
Nobody will ever replace your wife, and your not trying to, you are meeting someone new, this will not diminish the feelings you had for your wife and she will always remain in your heart. Anyone new that you meet, who is truly worth your while, will not expect anything less, and will not expect you to not have love still for your wife. I would urge though that you do not continually talk about your wife, as this can pretty hard on a new partner, trying to live up to a ghost so to speak.
If you have children no matter what age, and I know this from personal experience, make sure they understand that you are not trying to replace there mom, seeing you with a new partner will be really hard for them, they will want you to be happy, but it is still hard. The first woman my dad went out with was a cow, and continually put my mom down, not in front of my dad but to us, telling us that the advice and stuff she gave was rubbish and such, but I am happy to say they he is with a lovely woman now, and she is my second mom, and has been a fantastic nan to my kids, as my mom died when my kids were young, I hope that you have the same luck in finding someone like her.
Just take it slowly and don't rush into anything.
Your wife would want you to be happy.
2007-02-05 14:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by portly_pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to say when it's right to move on with someone new. Everyone handles their grief and loss in different ways. You will know when the time is right. You need to always keep your spouse in your heart. Every memory is what made you who you are. Hold on to the love and remember you can always love your lost one and let someone else in too. Start slowly. Keep up all pictures of your life. Good luck!
2007-02-05 06:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My goodness! It would have been OK three years ago if you felt ready. I have a feeling that sometimes destiny brings two people together before the time comes,but in the misery it is hard to see that that person could be your future happiness.Sometimes they just could have it on their minds and wait for the right time to be together. Ask me, I know.
2007-02-05 06:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I lost my wife of 16 years last October. I still love her deeply and I still miss her terribly. There is no set time for grieving it is a personal thing.
Personally I've started pulling myself together - and although I'm not looking I think I'm ready to move on with my life.
Good luck for the future and just take it one day at a time. Just remember that your partner was special and unique in their own way; and if you meet someone new, they will be special and unique in their own way - there never has to be comparisons.
2007-02-06 02:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by spear_1021 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you feel like you have found the right guy. if it takes you three more years to move on than take that extra three years. no one has the right to judge you on how fast or how slow it will take you to get over the loss of your husband, it is your choice alone. I'm really sorry for your loss and i hope you find a great person to help you get through this.
2007-02-05 06:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine for you to move on right now! Many people don't wait as long as you have. Your mourning period is over, and you need to get on with the rest of your life. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about your decision to move on. I'm sure your former husband would want you to be happy, not lonely and miserable. Good luck to you and your future!
2007-02-06 03:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u had juss became widowed bout a couple of years ago,u should try 2 explore new people right now even though that special person that u had iz gone right now dosent mean that u have to stop lovin keep your head up and find more lil fishes in da sea.
2007-02-05 06:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by kaykay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have young children, there should be no issues holding you back now. Except your own. If you don't feel ready after three years and are still grieving, I think you should find a therapist to talk to. Noone should be miserable that long.
If you have young children, you should tread very carefully here. Do not mix your love life with your children and always keep your kids first, until you reach a point of engagment/marriage.
2007-02-05 06:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is only a right time if u feel right, never let anyone say that u need to find someone as soon as! take things slowly and try and move to the next level wen u feel comfortable enough with a person u feel attracted to, until then just enjoy urself!!
2007-02-05 06:59:33 · answer #11 · answered by katluvsu4eva2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋