I am married to a Mr A who supported our family for past 3 years. I like his company but I wont love him. I belive he loves me but the problem is that I love Mr N. I love Mr N from past 15 months. I want to settle with him. But I am married to Mr A and its situation which forced me to marry him. I am not happy with him. I want to go back and settle with Mr N. How should I convience Mr A about this fact. I doesn't want to hurt Mr A.Will it possible to go back and settle with Mr N
2007-02-05 06:24:15 · 17 answers · asked by Thoole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, are there kids involved? I mean, in america women have the right to choose who we marry. So, I find it hard to understand how you were "forced" into marrying him. I have no sympathy for stupidity, and the fact that people use marriage as such a lite term now a days is disturbing. Oh, and what you are doing is called adultry..hope he doesnt find out because if he does, he gets the kids, and you get no alimony or anything else from this. So, you dug your own hole by marrying this dude in the first place. Take control of your life.
2007-02-05 06:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Amethyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. N was not there for you but Mr. A was. If Mr. N had you in his best interest he would of married you, or you wouldn't feel forced to marry Mr. A. I know the last think you want to hear is that you were wrong and dirty to marry a man you didn't love. Life a person is nothing to being playing games with. It's not one day you do in the next day you won't. You don't do that to someone. In this fantasy you got about Mr. N it's not going to work. Ya it might for awhile, but trust me it's not. You did damage. In why would Mr. N would want you back after you married someone else. He might for awhile to show Mr. A he could. Sometimes in life we end up with a person we don't love right away but though time we fall in love with that person. In the one who we really love stays deep into your heart, but you can't be with that person. But you still love him.In if you stay with Mr. A he don't have to know that. Some things are good to keep a secret, it's your right.Am telling you things with Mr. N is damage, because you married someone. In if don't be care full your going to end up out on your a s s. With either or Mr. N or Mr. A. In don't think you won't because I seen it happen. You need to read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger in you need to call her or go to her website. She has a talk radio show on 640am Mon-Fri 12noon-3pm southern ca time. She would love to hear your story.
2007-02-05 14:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. A will be very lucky to be rid of you. You don't want to hurt him? You already have. You married him, and fell in love with someone else. He's supported you for 3 years - and you're not happy? Do him a favour - and leave.
2007-02-05 14:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think what you did was wrong!Why would you marry any man if you did not love him???What do you mean you were forced??Did he put a gun to your head and say marry me??I didn't think so.
If you still loved your "Mr.N" then you sould of said something earlier to "Mr.A"Now because of your immaturity you have quite a dilemma now don't you?I say talk to "Mr.A" about how you feel about not loving him and that you choose to end the marriage.Don't mention the other"Mr.N" or you will be looked upon as a immature little girl who doesn't know what she wants and has no self esteem.I bet you are one of those women that has to have someone or you feel depressed and insecure about yourself aren't you??
Do you really think that "Mr.N" would want to be with you now knowing he is second best??That is how he will look at it if he has any brain in his head.
You have some issues you need to clear with yourself before you date and divorce.Try counselling for your self esteem problem and insecurity first.Then you won't be in childish problems.
I feel sorry for the family and Mr.A!!
2007-02-05 14:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpio Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say follow your heart girl or else you will live a life of regret. The past doesn't matter to women, so you go ahead and get with your Mr. N and Mr. X, Y, and Z too.
2007-02-05 14:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u were very wrong to marry Mr a for what he could provide with his money, will come back to haunt u as u knew when u married him u did not love him. u should get divorced and go with the one u love, but u used this man, and u hurt him badly, expect bad to come to u over this.
2007-02-05 14:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to not hurt Mr. A. I know nothing about your circumstances, but if you are like the thousands of women every day who leave loving husbands and stable families to chase a dream, you will be back here in 6 months posting:
"I MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAKE how do I get my husband back??"
2007-02-05 14:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One can not be forced into a marriage unless you got married for the green card.
One can never convince a man that Mr. A, B, or C is better than him.
2007-02-05 14:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you solve your problem. I would think of the reasons that I married this MR A and what he can provide to your family and then I would think of what this MR N can do for you. After you decide who could best provide for you then make your decision. I know it doesn't help much but think who would do your family the best
2007-02-05 14:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by jenapher 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are beneath contempt.
What a user.
Take support for your family from a guy but refuse to love him.
Selfish , user, loser, worthy of loneliness and living in a box.
2007-02-05 14:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋