when ever we get into an argument he tries to make me feel inferer calls me names threatens me tries to controll everything i do
but then when he is in a good mood he tell sme he loves me and acts like a prince but by this time i feel like i am walking on egg shells what do i do
2007-02-05 06:17:35 · 25 answers · asked by chick4god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find someone who cares about your feelings and doesn't try to control you. you cannot change him. it is impossible.
2007-02-05 06:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Peachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the reason a lot of people today are divorced. Once a control freak always a control freak. Marriage doesn't change a personality into something positive all of a sudden. To have the living soul involved like this, sounds very serious indeed. A lot of people would be happy to treat you right.
2007-02-05 06:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of know what you mean. Only my husband is in prison and when ever we talk or I go visit him we argue about some thing. It could be because I did not say that I miss him. He was never like this on the street. But know it seems as if his confidence level is down. I put up with my husband's stuff because of his situation. YOU on the other hand, sound like you're dealing a controlling man. Please ask him if he is willing to go to counseling, if he's not then you need to pray. It is hard not knowing what to say and what not to say, or what to do or what not to do. But if it is too much for you don't stay in an enviorment that is not safe.
2007-02-05 06:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to say I got a good belly laugh out of your question... but I feel your pain.
Considering your name, I assume that you love the Lord. The best thing you can do is pray for your husband. See sometimes it almost seems like the "Yeah whatever" answer... but asking the Creator of the Universe that knows your husband's beginnings and ends, the number of hairs on his head, and every thought he's ever had, asking Him to step in and help isn't the least you could do; it's the most. :)
Plus when dealing with the sand paper people in my life (the one's who rub Christ's reflection right off of me at times...lol) I always also ask that God show me what I can do different. God's in the people changing business... :)
You can't change him, but God can. You can't change him, but you can change you! Change your response to his behavior. Don't do what you always do. Pray for God to show you some new reaction that will shock your husband. If he starts yelling and you pout away, don't. Your new response to him will quite likely change his response to you.
Ask God for the new way... His answer will be better than anything I could say. He knows the plans He has for YOU... Plans to prosper you... Plans to give you hope and a future. Go to HIm... He will make it good.
I'll be praying for you...
Be Blessed !
Hope
2007-02-05 06:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by HOPE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked my wife about me, at one time, she would have said more or less what you just stated. However, now she appears to want me back. The problem is that we are both afraid of each other and can no longer trust each other.
If I go back to Puerto Rico where she is, I fear that I will be murdered, thrown in jail after a terrible scene with her or even be locked away for good in the Puerto Rican Psychiatric Hospital which, I can tell you, is far worse than hell on earth.
2007-02-06 00:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, I've read all of your questions, your marriage is in the toilet. Why did you marry this guy? EVERYTHING is wrong here. Get off the net and do something about your life. Quit asking strangers what to do about every tiny aspect of your marriage and start to face it yourself.
Take back your power and tell this guy that his marriage is on the line. Pack your stuff and take your baby and go to a friend's house. Tell him you will return when he is ready to face this thing like a man. Go to therapy alone. If he wants to go, fine but you need to go without him.
Move. Do something. Stop whining and get your life together. Nothing happens until something moves.
2007-02-05 06:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who needs somebody beating you down every time there is a augment? We all have a right to our own opinions and to make another person feel belittled and threaten is just abusive.. You don't need to live like this that is abusive and hurtful and in time you will have no soul left
2007-02-05 06:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called mental abuse. Don't put up with it. I did for a long time before I got out. Now I have a wonderful husband who knows how to communicate and we work out any problems that we have.
2007-02-05 06:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Alaska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you say to him when you argue? I bet its not nice. Have you cheated on your husband? I mean seriously, you have posted here about lousy sex and him being mean. But I have been married a long time and I know that there are two sides to every story and somewhere inbetween the two stories lies the truth. i would side with you but I know there is another side to the story.
2007-02-05 06:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor, I don't know how long you've been married, you married him for better or for worse. If you feel you can't take it anymore, you can get separated and both of you think things through.
2007-02-05 06:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he is mentally and emotionally abusing you. I would get a marriage counselor or get out. He may never hit you...but mental and emotional abuse leaves scars too...just ones you can't see.
2007-02-09 04:49:55 · answer #11 · answered by Trumpetgirl2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋