Sweet versus sassy?

Question

This is a question for the men out there. I'm talking about men who are at least 25.

When considering spending time with a woman that you would either marry or live with, would you rather have a woman who was sweet and easy to get along with, a woman who would do anything you asked - maybe a little emotionally dependent on you.

OR, would you rather have a woman who required you to be on your toes all of the time, firey and unpredictable - a woman you really had to work for?

Why?

Would you rather have a woman whom you know loves and adores you and would never cheat on you or the woman who says she loves you but as soon as you become boring to her she might leave you for some other guy?

I'm asking this asuming that the women are both good looking and sexy.

I'm really curious about the truth here. Does "sweet" mean as much to you as "high maintenance" for a long-term or marriage relationship?

I guess my question is mostly about personality types. The sweet woman likes to have fun and go places and has a daring side too. She dresses sexy and is affectionate and very into sex, but may not innitiate it often. The sassy woman does whatever she wants, but has the potential to leave if she is bored or gets pissed off. I guess what I want to know is do men get bored by sweet? Would you rather have a little drama in your relationship or something steady and comfortable?

Personally, I'm the sweet one. I'm as passionate as any other woman, but I have no temper at all, I don't ever nag and I am maybe too agreeable. I just wonder sometimes if I'm boring. I always do whatever he wants to do and usually have fun doing it too. Is there such a thing as too accomodating? I wonder that since I give him no reason to ever wonder if I am in love with him or to ever suspect that I would leave, is that too much security? Do men like the idea that a woman is so independent that she might just well decide that she doesn't need him?

Good point about being a doormat fucose!

Answer 1

I wanted a woman who was very independant and didn't need me at all...but wanted me very badly.

I dealt too often with co-dependent women who couldn't take care of their own business and needed too much...they needed help with everything, and they needed money, and they needed emotional support...etc. Too much drama for me.

I did not want to be living to give them what they needed.

By choosing a strong, independent woman, I knew she could stand alone...if need be. I knew she could handle herself without me. Yet, she chose to be with me and to bring our strengths and talents together.

This has proven to be mutually beneficial on many fronts. While we are both strong, our strengths lie in different areas. Where one of us is more adept, that partner takes the lead. If this needs to be discussed, it can be, but we both see the benefit of sharing various responsibilities based on each others strengths.

Both of us lived independently for a long time before we joined forces. We could trust each other's judgement. Now, as we venture into parenthood, we trust each other's ability to make decisions involving our kids. We respect each other's strengths and help each others weaknesses.

If a woman cannot be confident and independent on her own, she's simply not ready for a serious relationship. The same can be said for a man.

Answer 2

I'll take "sweet" as you describe her. "Sassy" sounds unstable and not ready to have a long term relationship. You did not hit on the one in between though. Guess what she is? You can answer in your update.
Now that you have edited, let me answer further. I believe that most men would really go for the sweet one and not get bored with her. Sure, one can become bored in a relationship if you let that happen. But, there are plenty of things to do to keep the relationship a good one. The sassy girl you describe would turn away most guys. Who wants someone who might flip out and walk away from the relationship?

Answer 3

Someone who is sassy and has a sweet side. Independant and emotionally stable . Thats sexy...and something men can live with for a long time. Clingy and non independant are not attractive in the long run.

Answer 4

Sweet.

Sassy can be fun but there will come a time where I just don't cut the mustard anymore. Sassy will require me to constantly up my game, constantly think up new things. There will come a point where I just don't make her happy anymore. She will look for another.

Sweet does not mean high maintenance. It also shouldn't mean doormat.

This doesn't mean I don't want to or shouldn't have to work in a relationship, but it cannot escalate forever.

Answer 5

To have the extremes you mentioned is not realistic. She would be smart, witty, literate, caring, understanding, but independent. So to answer your question, a balance of the two extremes would be best. I hope you find that special person who best fits that for you as well. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I definitely love the "sweet"...But, I wouldn't mind the Sweet being "sassy" sometimes too.

Answer 7

No. The adage: "while existence provides lemons, make lemonade" isn't the only answer. interior the interest Portal 2, Cave Johnson says "Make existence take the lemons lower back! save your stupid lemons, existence!" the reason of that philosophy is that one has no decision in existence. bitter and candy are available in numerous doses, at distinctive cases.

Answer 8

sassy,i love it when she keeps me on my toes and guessing whats gonna happen next. i married her because she is fiesty and tells me how it is.... I love this about her.. Makes our life of marriage fun and exciting and i would never have it any other way:)