Hello, I am 22 years old and have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I recently got divorced. My relationship with my ex-husband was abusive emotionally and physically. He cheated numerous times and would make me feel like nothing. Since then I have gotten a wonderful man that treats me like a queen. However, in my mind its like how can this be real? No one can love me like he does. It is very hard for me to believe. With my past experience I question him about things and it’s almost like I am accusing him of doing something like being unfaithful or lying to me. In my heart I know that he would not cheat on me or lie to me. He never has and we were friends before we got together. He knows what I went through with my ex and we have been through a lot. Some days I get so paranoid about what he is doing, I check his emails some days just to see if he is up to something. Sometimes I go through his phone to see who he has been talking to. He has given me no reason to do any of this and when he is not at work he is with me. He texts me throughout the day and tells me he loves me all the time. If there is anything me or my daughter need he makes sure that we have it and that we are taken care of. I try to trust him and throw the bad thoughts out of my head but it just does not seem to work. I cry a lot because I don’t know what to do and most of the time I think the worst. This guy makes sure that everything is ok but in my head I do not think things are ok. We do communicate and I try to tell him how I feel or how he makes me feel at times but nothing seems to give. We have decided to take a break from each other to see if it helps. Honestly, I do not want to be away from him and I do love him dearly. I want to save our relationship and I know he wants our relationship to but with my insecurities and my accusations as he would say it is putting a major strain on our relationship. Can anyone please help me before I lose the man that I love because of my issues??
2007-02-05 06:08:05 · 3 answers · asked by dayauburn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, you need to let go of your past. I speak from experience. Realize that who your ex is and what he did had nothing to do with who you are...Forgive yourself and forgive him then let it go! Talk with your current significant other, just like you expressed yourself here - open...Both of you go to counseling...as an outlet for you and he needs to be there just for support. God bless you.
2007-02-05 06:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Suzee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok that you feel that way. you have put up a fence around your heart because you're afraid of getting hurt. but getting hurt is what makes your heart stronger. you love this man and your ex-husband is still controlling your life because you can't let go of that pain. now in order for you to be happy you have to let go. you have to forgive your ex-husband. you might not want to don't do it for him do it for yourself. because if you don't you'll lose the man you love now. forgiveness will let you be able to truly love again
2007-02-05 14:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor. You need far better help than Yahoo.
2007-02-05 14:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋