i dont understand why my husbands treats me bad then expects me to enjoy having sex with him what do i do
2007-02-05 06:04:58 · 12 answers · asked by chick4god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some guys just don't get it. They don't understand that if you are to be fun, relaxed, and exciting, they have to be fun, relaxed and exciting too. Most of us know that the majority of foreplay for a woman is in the brain. If that's not getting positive strokes, nothing else will. Most women want their man to treat them with respect. If they're not, why would we enjoy sex with them?
2007-02-05 06:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change your husband, you can only change yourself?
I tried Marriage counselling, it did not work in my situation. My spouse did not accept responsibility for what he caused and everyone felt like he had the right to leave me when my Mother was dying.
I read an article once where this lady got raped by her husband. The truth of it, they were able to work things out because he was scared to lose her.
Men and women's theories about sex sometimes differs, maybe he thinks he is patching things up? I read an article that once said that never go to bed feeling angry.
Sex should never used a weapon or as daggers!
2007-02-05 14:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, this one is easy.
He's grouchy and bitter at you because of the lack fulfilling sex.
You don't feel like sex because he's grumpy and bitter.
Vicious circle.
If you both care about your marriage, you need to both start trying to do better. Neither of you can sit around waiting for the other to fix things - you both need to jump in feet first.
2007-02-05 14:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is treating you bad because you have a bad attitude.
This becomes an unending cycle. You withhold or are disinterested. He reacts poorly and with disdain.
One of you, well both actually, have to break that cycle.
What that means is compromise. If that is not available then you are doomed anyway.
2007-02-05 14:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the sex sucks and its not worth your time. Sorry things aren't going so great... we all go thru those times. But this is serously what I tell my man. I mean, 90% of the time...the sex is awesome, but then there is a time when it just really bites....and I tell him..I'm done. This isn't working. Why suffer through it if your not enjoying it?
2007-02-05 14:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Be prepared to decide what is going to be the next step. Either you work things out, or ????
2007-02-05 14:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a different husband. Remember - YOU choose the man, no one does it for you. Don't make bad choices.
2007-02-05 14:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I read you last question about sex and I think you need marriage counceling bad.
2007-02-05 14:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called marriage. Almost everyone goes through it. Talk and counseling.
2007-02-05 14:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counseling.
2007-02-05 14:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋