I have got a new neighbour moved next door about 3 years ago , she seemed to be a friendly type. I look after her house when they go on holidays and noticed that she bought several house items exactly same as mine . It seemed strange but i didnt take too much notice. Now i find that she wears exactly same clothes as me. If i get something new - a few days later she appears to wear the same thing . It freaks me out and makes me angry at the same time. I do not particularly want a war with her , but what do i do ? Any suggestions ???
2007-02-05 05:58:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take it as a compliment. There is a danger of you both becoming obsessed with this issue. I know of two people who got caught up in the same situation; in the end they became bitter enemies, each trying to outdo each other and they became victims of ridicule in their neighbourhood. Let it go, there really is more in life to worry about and get on with (in a good way).
2007-02-05 11:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why it would freak you out but it sounds as though she just admires the way you dress and your taste in decor. Take it as a compliment and dont worry too much. Some people really struggle to find there own identity, usually because they lack confidence so they copy someone they think looks good. Next time you see her say something like 'i really love that top your wearing it would look really good with......' sort of give her advice about things you think she would suit. If someone she admires gives her fashion advice it will help her to find her own style and she wont copy you so much. Good luck and just let it go over your head, she means no harm x
2007-02-05 14:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm well you can look at it this way she obviosly admires you so you could take it as a compliment but i can see where you are comung from my sister had the same problem with a friend any time she told her about her plans of decorating or getting a new hair do so on so on she would do or die to get there first or would tell her o ya im doing the same it drive her mad.. but do you know what she also got her self in to a lot of debt doing so ....you are unique so just go on with your own life and maybe start putting things around the house that you dont like just when she is ther and maybe go out in a few outragous outfits and go and ask her what do you think?tell her that you love !petty i know either that r just let it go over your head ...keep cool
2007-02-05 19:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by madamx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it so personal. Look at it this way - she is in one way complimenting your style and taste. Is it really worth your time and energy to pursue something that you really have no control over. You could just mention it in passing that she really must like your taste in things because of the similar things you share. You could then add that you'd would be willing to help her create a style of her own that she would like. Make sure to say this all casually and jokingly. Life is complex already, don't add to it.
2007-02-05 14:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you can't stop her from buying items like yours. If she likes what you have, she has every right to buy it herself.
If it really has you on edge, then go and mention it to her. Be prepared for there to be a rift in your current neighborly relationship. But it's either that or just deal with it.
2007-02-05 14:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by Rugah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your married guard your spouse..you never know....what she is trying to do. Maybe she just really admires you and your taste. Its not uncommon for friends to have a lot of the same thing. Or you may want to just cut her out of your life, you don't have to be mean or rude..but just busy..
2007-02-05 14:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its not really a big problem, she just idolises you.
however, if its really getting to you, why not take her shopping and get her to try on clothes that suit her and try to persuade her that these clothes look good on her.
maybe being friends with her and just suggesting that you should wear different clothes might help??
if not, don't worry, its not a bad thing!
2007-02-05 14:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by amy_leigh_89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she wants to be like you - is that really so bad, you have a fan!! Unless she becomes dangerous, just let it go. Oh, and stop spying in her house when you're supposed to be looking after it.
2007-02-05 14:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be flattered that she wants to be like you. If it worries you then distance youself a bit from her and stop looking after her house that way you can't see what she has in there.
2007-02-05 14:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to change your locks or install a security system...or move away from the "Single White Female" Yikes!!
2007-02-05 14:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋