when ever my husband wants to have sex I get grossed out about it and when we do it i feel degraded and used
2007-02-05 05:50:53 · 18 answers · asked by chick4god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you should talk to someone and see whats going on.
2007-02-05 05:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by xsecretxowishesx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. I'm not a marriage counselor or anything but I think you have to ask the question. Why am I with this person? Was this a marriage of convenience or did I really love this man. Or does your husband do anything that makes you feel dirty or disgusting when you have sex with him because it could be the manner in which you are having sex that could be the problem. Also, did you talk with your husband about these feelings your having? If not, I think it would be a good idea to do that. Break it to him gently though. No man wants to hear that any women is disgusted by him especially his wife. Then, the two of you must agree to see a counselor to get this resolved. Remember, the first thing you do is ask yourself. Do I really love this man to do all these things to make our marriage work. Then proceed from there. You don't want to go into this half-hearted. Hope this helps. I hope you can find happiness. Good luck.
2007-02-05 06:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Polaco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know intimacy issues are mostly psychological, mind issues, right? You should go sit down with a counselor and talk things out. Your mind is too active during intimate times. You owe it to your husband to pick up the phone and start to get help right away. Sex can be a beautiful thing, especially between husband and wife. May God bless you and heal you.
2007-02-05 05:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling!! There's nothing more beautiful than a husband and a wife to fulfill each other's needs and desires. Find someone professional to talk to and heal yourself from past hurt and pain; find the gift of sex with a committed life partner. You don't know what your missing out on.
2007-02-05 05:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you what's wrong just by your name... chick4god?
I'll bet you were raised in a very religious home and taught that the body and sex are a sinful, dirty thing.
It's going to take a lot of time to get over that negative programming. I hope your husband has the patience for it.
Sex is not gross. God created that ability for a reason.
2007-02-05 05:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some therapy to ease the cause of your aversion to sex. It is not a natural aversion. He is your husband and will only stand so much. It is something that needs immediate attention. Don't listen to the often well-intended people that give overly romantic and/or wishful advice on this forum.
2007-02-05 05:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming it is nothing kinky, you should not be grossed out. It is a natural bodily need. If it were not for sex we all would not be here. So, try to accept it as a natural part of life. If you cannot do that then consult a psychologist.
2007-02-05 05:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are using too much of your brain. Thinking about it too much. Try something to take you mind off of it. Maybe you need a drink or two to get you to relax. If not you might try seeing a expert on sex problems.
2007-02-05 06:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it!
He is your husband and not some guy... if you never liked him in the first place you should not have married him.
2007-02-05 05:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by ◄☯♫ vanitee of vanitees ♫☯► 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may need to talk with a counselor, they may be able to help you find out why you have such an aversion to sex.
2007-02-05 05:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's not taking the time he needs with you to give you pleasure.
You have to TALK TO HIM and tell him what you like and dislike and ask for what you are not getting from him.
COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A WONDERFUL INTIMATE LIFE TOGETHER!
2007-02-05 05:55:23 · answer #11 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋