mentally disturd plz help me i really need help?

Question

i am in problem my love is mentally disturbed i want to help him decause he only speeks to me and i cant see him like this he harm him self with knife niddle or any sharp thing when i was not in his life he use to harm himself with knife cutting his arm but now i have come to his life he not cuting and he says i want to live for u he is not cutting now because his parents has hided all the sharp thing now he say i want to right your name on my arm and he has done it i fell very bad he say ur love is making me weak and i want to harm my self as my relationship is distance relation and i am not with him first i use to say plz dont joke or blackmail me that you will cut your arm for me he said i have and he sent me the photos that see how huch i love you and in between he starded eating sleeping pill i have said to stop it and he has stoped eating pill because on phone in between he use to sleep now he is not he says i dont know why i think of cutting my self my mind gets blank and i cut

i cant leave him because i love him i have loved only one person and i am not the person" use and throw" because relationship is every thing for me . when u see your loved ones in pain you will forget every thing even the language u say or type only tear will say when you are in this situation

Answer 1

Ok let me tell you this and this is because I have been a Cutter and a Burner in parts of my life. People that cut are not doing it to kill them self’s so don’t get too scared about this. And people always say all they are doing it for is attention, this is NOT true cutters don’t usually tell anyone when they are doing it or show people when they cut. The reason he is probably doing it is there is something painful going on in his life now or something happened in the past that he couldn’t forget so he probably cuts himself to make him forget about it or not think about it. He should get help from someone and there are places that specialize in this field. Although I got a lot of help from them their are times still where I hurt myself ( I mostly burn myself ) but it happens so rarely now, infact I went 10 years and didn’t do it at all but have had some problems recently that set me off. The thing that I would worry about more is the sleeping pills and this bothers me more then the other for a few reasons. First off sleeping pills are downers so this will increase any depression he has going on. Second of all sleeping pills put parts of the mind asleep well before the body goes to sleep so if he is cutting while taking them it could mess his judgment up more and maybe go deeper then he thinks. And third of all ( and I’m not sure about this check the side effects on the sleeping pills ) sleeping pills can thin the blood. So if he is cutting and taking them he could first off cut deeper then he thinks then fall asleep and bleed to death. Get him some help you might want to check out some off the new places out there that are know as dual diagnoses treatment centers, they deal with both drugs and mental disorders. And as far as him putting your name on him tell him you love him and would rather get a card for Valentines day then that. Do not turn your back on him he needs the friendship and care that you give him, let him know that you will be there to talk to and be there when he gets the help he needs. Good luck and take care of yourself and help him understand that there is nothing wrong with getting help for this. I put a link to a sight that has some info for you and him also it has a chat room for people who deal with this problem them self's...

Answer 2

Baby Doll, your love needs your help. Apparently he trust you enough to respond when you ask him to stop doing harm to himself. Now you need to talk with his parents and all of you get this young man to a doctor. You really can't do anything with our the consent of his parents anyway. This kid-O could really hurt himself or you or his own parents. He needs help before someone regrets not taking action. If you leave this guy he is done for - not to scare you but it very likely would happen.
You really only have two choices - Leave him and the problem behind - Or get him help. That is it !
I believe between you and his parents he could be hospitalized and recover!
Don't You !!!!
Be wise and safe.

Answer 3

Your in one hard relationship and not all details are here but seek counselling and the opinion of doctors & the parents. Hope the pshycoists can help too with your plea an inner-self

Answer 4

he may be depressed. my husband used to be a cutter. i found out through a friend. he told me they were from work, that he was in a tight space trying to fix something and there was a sharp nail poking out. i had to yell at him to stop. hes still depressed. we have a baby on the way and he is very happy about it but theres lots of times where he just feels useless. all the reassurance i give him never seems to help.

just try to tell your boyfriend that he may need medication to help if talking things out do not help. its the best you can do for him.

Answer 5

he needs counseling, he is depressed, i know a girl like that. depression is anger turned inwards, sometime someone made him very angry, mabey his dad, only he knows. mabey he was sexually abused as a child? mabey he's full of inner rage. read the bible together, tell him you will not dessert him while he goes through this but only if he seeks help too.

Answer 6

He needs therapy, you need to learn better english, (sorry but it's my best answer-good luck.)

Answer 7

HE COMIN FOR U FOR HELP SO HELP HIM. GET HIM PRFESSIONAL HELP... IF U REALLY LOVE HIM LIKE U SAY U N U MUST TO STILL STAY BY HIS SIDE N TRY TO HELP HIM BUT DATS HES CRY OUT FOR HELP... HES TRUSTIN U SO NOW U HAVE TO GO FOR HELP. I WAS A CUTTER WEN I WAS A TEEN N I NEVER TOLD ANYONE UNTIL I MET MY HUSBAND. HE HELP ME OUT ALOT EVERYTIME I FELT LIKE CUTTIN I WOULD CALL HIM N HE WOULD TALK ME OUT OF IT... I WOULD CRY CUZ I KNEW IT WAS WRONG BUT I WOULD BLANK OUT LIKE UR BOYFRIEND N I WOULDNT REALIZE WAT I DID UNTIL AFTER I DID IT. BUT UNTIL HE WENT N TOLD SOMEONE I GOT HELP... YEA I WAS MAD CUZ I TRUSTED HIM NOT TO TELL ANYONE BUT I REALIZED HE REALLY LOVED ME FOR DOIN DAT IF NOT HE WOULDNT CARE IF I CUT MYSELF OR NOT BUT HE DID CUZ HE LOVES ME N WANTED TO HELP BUT HE SAW DAT HE COULDNT DO IT ON HES OWN N WENT TO GO GET ME PROFESSIONAL HELP. SO AFTER TRIKIN ME TO GOIN WITH HIM TO THE HOSPITAL I WAS EVALUATED N DEN ESCORTED TO THE MENTAL HOSPITAL (LIKE I CALLED IT) N I BEEN CUT-FREE FOR 3 YEARS NOW N I LOVE HIM MORE DAN ANYTHING FOR HELPIN LIVE AGAIN! NOT U NEED TO DO DA SAME FOR HIM IF U REALLY LOVE HIM.

Answer 8

he doesnt need ur help he needs professional help..and then ur help...so seek professional help...FAST!!