should my man help me?

Question

I am 2 months pregnant and i want to quit my full time job and get a part time or quit working all together should my boyfriend or soon to be husband let me. He makes alright money and i make alright money but my job is really stressing me out what should i do or how should i ask him to let me.

Answer 1

Is your job stressing you out because you are pregnant? I wouldn't quit unless you really know you guys can make it without you working.

My girlfriend is 2 months along as well. She is going to school part time and working part time. I don't want her to quit her job, because after she takes maturnity leave, she will want to work again after a while and her job will be there. By quitting you are burning bridges you might not be able to afford to burn.

Answer 2

Is 'your man' the baby's father? If he is, and if he can 'support' all three of you, then you need to 'think about quitting' a bit more before you 'do it' ... because what about 'you' is what you need to 'think about clearly' ... do you want to become SIMPLY your man's wife and your baby's mother, or do you want to be able to go 'back to work' after the baby is born or the child reaches a certain age. And what will you 'do' now, while you are pregnant? If your 'job' is 'stressing you' now, you have to know whether it is 'stressing you' because you are pregnant, or had been stressing you before you got pregnant and you simply 'put up with it' ... because you are NOT going to be able to find 'as good a job for the same pay' as long as you're pregnant ... but if you can 'hang on' until as close to the end of the 'eighth month' of your pregnancy before you 'quit' you should be able to get a 'good job that you like' after the baby is born.

Answer 3

2 months is not that long into your pregnancy. You can still work up until 9 months, technically. Most women take leave at 7-8 months. I say work as long as you can and save. A child is not a joke, and you need to think of your child, not your stressful job. Your soon-to-be husband is helping you, by working. He is still there supporting you. What more can you ask for? You have a job, he does and your baby has a mother AND a Father.

Answer 4

Tell him that right now u need to rest and your gonna quit. If its too much for u im sure hed rather have u healthy then stressed and loose the baby. Wait until 3 months to quit though....u may have more energy and it'll help save up money for the stuff you wanna get for the baby. And u may be able to take maternity leave so u can go back to work when baby gets here....those lil suckers are expensive!!

Answer 5

it all depends on if you'll be able to afford not to be working b4 the baby gets here. if he makes enough money to pay all the bills, buy groceries, plus all the baby things you need now, then talk with him. but if you guys need the 2 incomes, maybe you should keep your job and just look for a less stressful one. maternity leave happens, but thats not for a while for you. so i think the best thing for you would be to sit down with your husband to be and talk everything out. see what he thinks and maybe you guys can come to and agreement about the job. good luck w/ the situation and with the baby!

Answer 6

LET you? You ARE aware what century we're in, right? I think what you need to do is sit down with him and go over your (yours and his) EXPENSES, rent, utilities, etc.. and make sure he makes enough to keep everything going. If not, well, I think you should stay where you are until after the baby's born, then you can look for something else. Remember, you stop working and you can't continue to live as if you hadn't stopped. It will take sacrifice. And I wouldn't be so quick to put my life and finances in the hands of someone I need permission from, as if I were a child. He doesn't seem like the type who is eager to "share" his money. "Soon to be" isn't a sure thing and again, think twice about marrying someone who wants to control you. Good luck!

Answer 7

This is a decision that both of you have to make. If you want to stop working and you can both get by on one salary than you should do what makes you happy..plus think of all the money you will save on daycare. If you can't get by on one salary, you may want to look for another job...one that doesn't stress you out as much.

Answer 8

Well a good man should offer to have you take off or cut back in hours... If you want to avoid flat asking him, tell your doctor to write a letter taking you off work. I personally am due this month and have only missed 2 days of work, but have have been told for months I should quit and let him handle every thing.

Answer 9

One thing you need to realize is that while he may be your "man" and the baby's father, he is not your husband. Technically he could leave whenever he feels like it as could any man truly. So while you feel stressed at this particular job, you may just want to find a different one. You see... while it may be nice to believe he will be around and support you fully... that doesn't mean he will and you have a responsibility to yourself and now to this baby to be able to care for yourself regardless of where he stands. Don't become dependent on him.. be strong enough for you & the baby. You will be a better person for it as will your child someday realize what measures you took to provide for them.

Answer 10

yes.he should let you. personally I have never been in this situation, but I had colleagues women from my work, and i must tell you that their situations were various, meaning that i had one girl who said she had to work untill month 9-but she had no problem with that, while others got in prenatal medical legal absence right from the first month saying that job was stressful, and for one it was, she had some back problems.But my advice is to try to take medical paid legal absence and if you can't then quit your job, but I'm not sure where you live, but you're not entitled to some money for the time worked in case of pregnancy? I think you should consult a legal advisor for your options. But yes, your husband should support you, it's my opinion.God bless.