I am 11 weeks and 1 day pregnant. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant, and so was my husband. However, every day that passes I start to feel more and more nervous that something will happen to the pregnancy. I don’t have any history of miscarriage.
The doctor says that everything is normal and I feel fine but I still feel so negative about this pregnancy. My husband will say something about the baby and our future and all I can think is “if I don’t miscarry.” My husband is so happy and even brought home his old baby crib from his grandparent’s house. I got upset and said that I didn’t even want to look at it right now. My cousin is also pregnant and we are due within a week of each other. She is very positive and has already bought baby stuff. I want this baby very badly but why am I being so negative. What can I do to just relax and enjoy being pregnant?
2007-02-05 05:21:02 · 15 answers · asked by Sillybear 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you everyone for your advise and comfort. I makes me feel a lot better to know that others have felt the same way I do. I am going to have an U/S on thursday, and as long as everything goes well I will try to relax and take everything as it comes. Thanks again!
2007-02-05 06:23:34 · update #1
It is completely normal to worry. It is also completely normal to worry so much you stress yourself out. That's not what you want. Relax. In a few weeks you will be out of the first trimester and that is when most miscarriages happen. Then, just make milestones for yourself and celebrate each one. That's what I have done. I am a huge worrier, like yourself. I had a miscarriage a year ago. I am now 21 weeks pregnant. Each time the baby moves it is reassuring. Have you heard the heartbeat? Once you hear that, you can breathe easier also. It is rare to have a miscarriage after a heartbeat is detected. They usually occurs before you even realize that you are pregnant.
I know that we hear about all these miscarriages and stuff, but just think....millions of babies are born everyday. Compare that to the amount of miscarriages. It's slim chance. Just take a deep breath and put your feet up! Good Luck
2007-02-05 05:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. At first when I found out I was so excited and just couldn't believe it! Then came month 2 and 3 and I was just terrified, I had a friend that was pregnant too and lost it at 10 weeks, we were due at the exact time. I was so scared and my midwife wouldn't see me until 12 weeks. Well I am now 24 weeks with a BOY and he is very healthy! Keep in mind that after 12 weeks the chance drops of miscarriage. I think we just always worry about things and that is normal. I hope everything goes well for you and your new family! Congrats! and it does get better as time goes by.
2007-02-05 05:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by 1st time momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your almost into your 2nd trimester which means that you are highly unlikely to miscarry at this point! So you should just sit back, relax and enjoy being a mommy-to-be! Trust me; I have had several miscarriages and 4 great pregnancies; including 2 sets of twins! You and the baby are going to be fine!
2007-02-05 05:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to be nervous, but also those negative thoughts could provoke something to happen to your baby. If the doctor gave you the clear that everything is going well and the baby is healthy, then dont stress out about it, stress is what causes miscarriages. Just relax and remind yourself that everything will be okay, you will have a healthy beautiful in a few months,and you will think you were silly for worrying.
2007-02-05 05:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by meg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the babies heartbeat yet? I know that through all 3 of my pregnancies I was really nervous and then when I finally got to hear the babies heartbeat then for whatever reason it made me feel better because I knew that everything would be okay. It doesn't sound as though you are far from being able to hear the babies heartbeat. That might make you feel better but hang in there and just trust in yourself and your body that you can and will build a beautiful and healthy baby.
2007-02-05 05:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda with you.... We have been looking at cribs, car seats, and etc. but I'm REALLY nervous about getting it now. My mothers first child was a miscarriage and I'm already having problems with bleeding at 6 1/2 weeks, even though now my baby is fine. Every soo often I do say, "If I get to keep this baby", and I get yelled not to think that way.
2007-02-05 05:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Micki E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your feeling that way. If you keep feeling native about the baby then you will lose it because what you put into power will happen so stop. Don't feel so negitve about it. Be happy like you were when you found out. Having a baby is a very exciting thing and you shouldn't feel negative about it. Be like your husband and cousin and be happy and excited. Women rarealy have miscarriages. Don't think about that. Don't think like that ethier. If the doctor says things are fine then you have nothing to worry about. Be positve and excited. Don't let those negative feelings enter. Earase them and keep thinking about how cute and adorable he or she will be and think about all the fun times your going to have with your child. My younger brothers girlfriend lost their first child but she was positve about the second one and she made it through and had my baby niece. Come on and be excited and happy about this baby. God will allow you to be blessed with this child.
2007-02-05 05:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly if you are having a heathy pregnancy you are far enough along so all should be fine. Congrats. I am 13 weeks today and I had the same concerns and they are normal. Don't worry too much!! However, your husbands old crib may be a danger for the baby as for older cribs had different standards and your babies head or arm may get suck int he crib bars. You may need a new crib (That would be a bigger worry for me at this point!)
Congrats and have a safe and health pregnancy.
2007-02-05 05:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzyfontaine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think everyone goes through that part in there pregnancy where they worry about loosing there baby... its normal. if the doctors dont see a problem with your baby then i wouldnt worry about... i mean they wouldnt be able to prevent a misscarriage BUT if they seen a problem they would let you know right away they wouldnt keep it from you... your emotions is what is makeing you so negative thats part of being pregnant too... its hard to calm down and relax... but they say USUALLY if you hit 16 weeks then your chances of misscarrying drop ALOT.... i would just try not to take it to heart to much... im sure everything will be fine and everyone worrys about there baby, but just remember worrying is pretty harsh for the baby.... i would say just sleep as much as you can and relax as much as you can... try to do something to get your mind off of it, and before you know it you will be past that stage in your pregnancy and then you will be getting your belly and loveing it. lol good luck
2007-02-05 05:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by tanker015 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey dont worry so much. Sometimes the changing hormones can make any new mommy-to-be really moody and negative. your baby will be fine and so will you. just stay healthy and try doing some anti-stressful things, that might help make you more positive. Good luck!
2007-02-05 05:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by sarah s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋