As I have mentioned before my ex-husband and I had decided to seperate due to being 2 different people. This was about a year and a half ago. Since the beginning of this year we have been spending a lot of time together and doing things as a family. We take our boys to the park, visit our families together, or go see family shows together (i.e. Disney on Ice)...he had stated before that we are two way different people and are not compatible.
If he wishes not to be together, why does he make plans for us as if we were together and a happy family? Does he maybe want to work things out? Or what? I dont know whether I should ask him or just keep going along with him....
please help me understand....
2007-02-05 05:16:32 · 8 answers · asked by Jacinda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I stay at his families house or he stays at mine. we act as a couple and everyone still sees us as a couple. before calling it off we were together 8 years...
2007-02-05 05:25:34 · update #1
Let me add he is not my oldest son's father but still is acting as if he is dad. We are planning his birthday party and all....
2007-02-05 05:28:02 · update #2
Just keep this friendship going because it's good for the kids to see their parents getting along.
You two know that romantically it didn't work so don't go there again.
This is working so don't change it.
He is making plans because he wants this friendship for the kids. It's smarter than staying away from each other or fighting or being romantic again.
Stay the course!
2007-02-05 05:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Avsky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your ex is trying to keep the idea of being a family, alive. He may feel it necessary to your boys' well-being if you all do things as a family unit, rather than it just be either one parent or the other.
The only way your doubts can be answered is if you just go ahead and ask your ex up front....at least with an answer, there can be no room left for confusion.
2007-02-05 13:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to work things out with you or maybe he just wants the children to have a loving family. you should ask him what is going on. you don't say if you are still in love with him. if communication was a problem before don't let it be one now. tell him your feelings and go from there you can work everything out together, but not if it is only for the kids
good luck and go for it if that is what you really want
2007-02-05 14:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by janiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he's trying to maintain an amicable relationship for the children's sake. You may not be married, but if you have children you're still a family, like it or not. Lucky you that he's willing to recognize that and try to do the right thing.
It is possible that it could be more than that and he's reconsidering your relationship. The only way to understand is to talk to him about it.
2007-02-05 13:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by EQ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask him........its great that you guys are doing things as a family, but its not healthy for you if you're wanting more and he doesn't ever see himself giving it to you. You need to know.
2007-02-05 13:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. But don't be hostile, Tell him that since you two seem to be getting along and enjoying each others company you were wondering if......
2007-02-05 13:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to be there for his kids and be your friend. Quit trying to make more out of it than there is.
2007-02-05 13:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard question
2007-02-05 13:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋