My cousin and I grew up as close friends. I had a crush on his girlfriend and then his wife but we are not related as its my cousins wife. Well, he always tried to fix me up with her when he was married but I never took him up on it but I did hear that other men have. But if they are separated is it ok to date her? Sue is a very sweet girl and she is a blond and very pretty but very naive and trustin. I know she loved my cousin as she was extremely jealous but he found another women as she can't have any children..well, i need some objective thought on this as i am leaning towards going out with her..
2007-02-05 04:23:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it's okay with your cousin, it's okay. Personally, I wouldn't want a sexual relationship with someone that was sexually involved with a family member - it's just a little too familiar. But other than that - fill your boots! You only live once.
2007-02-05 04:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you are intrestersted in Sue, but how much do you like your cousin? He may have a problem with you seeing her, and then closeness will be destroyed, and a family could be torn.
What if you ask your cousin if he's okay with it, and he says I don't care (out of anger, frustration, whatever) and you start a relationship with the ex?
What happens should they reconcile?
It may be possible for you and Sue somewhere down the line, when he TRULY doesn't care, but that's a stretch.
For now, keep your distance.
How about you start by getting involved in activities that keep you away from temptation (or hearbreak)? See your cousin, have limited contact with the ex. Not rude, just brief. And never alone!
And the next time opportunity knocks, you might want to go for it.
That way you'll have no regrets.
Hope this helps!
2007-02-05 05:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 00:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you value your relationship with your cousin. Just like ex-boyfriends are off limits to existing friend girls, this principle applies to anything ex if you want to maintain the relationship of the friend, cousin, sister, brother. I believe that is the most hurtful thing you could do someone you are close to. This could cause an ugly scene that could be remembered longer or more readily than a major earthquake. Find someone who closely resembles her, but PLEASE leave her alone. Your cousin's trying to fix you two up could have been his way of finding out if you still have feelings for her. The separation is probably traumatic enough without his having to worry about you moving in on his territory. Besides, it's a separation not a divorce.
2007-02-05 04:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it wrong?? There are no blood relation issues. particularly if it is a long time after the divorce. the kids, well, if the kids are very young or very old, it should be OK. I say it is not that big a deal and if the kids are older, they should not be able to dictate who you date. Yes, there will be drama, perhaps disapproval, but the ex disapproves about many things in their exes life, so why should their disapproval matter?
2016-05-24 18:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-22 21:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its wrong for you to date her...but you might wanna ask her ex if its okay first...you dont wanna break up a tight bond for a women
2007-02-05 04:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date her. There are plenty of other women you could choose that would be less complicated. Bad idea to date this one.
2007-02-05 04:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very wrong! You should leave her alone!
2007-02-05 04:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its wrong!!! stay away!!
2007-02-05 04:26:53 · answer #10 · answered by tdashnay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋