I'm confused about the way I feel?

Question

These days I feel kind of down. The main reason is because I feel like people look down on me and I am a dissapointment to everyone. When I was in Junior high people bullied me because I was not popular, in high school people who I thought were my friends backstabbed me and after I got married, those so-called friends looked down on me because I got married young and did not complete school (but I am doing it now) and my parents/in laws tell me that I should have kids. I feel like I should be ashamed of myself and I'm so embarrassed that I don't even want to call anyone or talk to anyone. What should I do? My husband is telling me not to worry about what others think and to just do my own thing, and I try but I can't help it. It really bothers me and hurts my feelings when people look down on me.

Answer 1

Don't have kids till you are ready especially if you decide to get more education because kids need a lot of your time. Did you ever think everyone else let you down? First more kids could get a better education if the school didn't focus so much on grades. They praise the smart ones and shame the ones who have to work for it. Second for all those students and friends that treated you badly they are worse off than you because they need to treat others badly in order to feel better about themselves. Third accept that all the people you are trying to please you never will. It sounds like you made a great decision with your husband focus on making a good life with him and let all those judgmental people waste their lives judging you if they want to. If you are happy with your life no one else has to be but don't waste any more time letting them make you feel bad if you do you might ruin the life you have.

Answer 2

Dont worry about it. Everyone has different ways of living their lives so you should take your husband's advice and just do your own thing.

Also, why should you pay attention to your old friends looking down on you, cos they were the ones who stabbed you in the back in the first place, so really, you could be looking down on them but you choose not to, so you're the better person in that respect.

Hope this helps .xXx

Answer 3

i know how that feels even though i'm only 18 i feel down about life too and i haven't even started but seriously don't worry about it you have a good husband who cares about you and your feeling and i'm sure who loves you very much don't let the past hurt your future or you'll never enjoy life screw the people who hurt you in the past because it can only make you stronger nothing should bring you down in life we only have one so enjoy it while you can and don't let people look down on you..use your voice and be more confident in yourself no one can harm you for caring for youself that's the only way your going to be able to go through life happy is if you have confidence

Answer 4

Go back to night school and make a Life that pleases you and the heck with other people If it cost anything they would keep their mouth shut,.

Answer 5

Your husbands right.
He loves you for who you are, and so should you.
You're completing school. Good for you!
Stop comparing yourself others and be proud of who you are.

Answer 6

look r u happy with your family, forget abiut what ppl think do they paid your bills, no right so forget them, be happy, adn dont worry, have kids have a lot of sex with your man LOL. life is to short to life it worry and sad.

Answer 7

Sweetheart!!! Listen to your husband..You do what you know is right for you. If your a christian, pray for peace and above all, love yourself.

Answer 8

you do not like yourself much do you
go have a beer