how do i tell my mum i could be pregnant?

Question

i am 19 and at university, my period is now 16 days late, i have done a test and it was negative. i still think i could be pregnant because many people have had many negatives but still been pregnant. im going to the docs on tuesday but i want to tell my mum first. i want to tell her but not sure how to.

has anybody been in this situation before or is now?

help!!!!!!!11

i was on the pill so my periods shud be like clockwork as have been for the past 3 years.

i have had more stress before university than whilst being here so not sure if it could be stress effecting it. not really changed eating habits or anything else for that matter. i went on the pill to regulate my period so this is weird.

Answer 1

No one can really tell you how to break the news to your mom as you know your mom better than anyone else. I suggest you just tell her ( honesty is the best policy, and the truth always comes out and then it hurts more) expect a response or two which might be hurtful but also understand that she is in shock and also need time to deal with it.... It´s not easy I know but that is the best you can do, rather include her in the whole thing she might feel better about that at the end !!!!!!

Good luck

Answer 2

Firstly-- DON'T PANIC! Take a deep breath. :). Sometimes stress can cause irregular periods and the more you stress about this, the worse its gonna get. I skipped a whole month once, maybe its just a change in your lifestyle. Sleep patterns, stress, emotional issues, diet, and a host of other issues can cause irregular periods. In fact, the menstrual cycle can be anywhere from 26 to 36 days. Lately my period has always been 2 weeks late (thats just how it is). Also i think its something like as long as you have about 9 periods in a year you are fine.
On the flip side-- i know one negative test doesn't mean you're not pregnant-- so well do a second one!
Till then ....just wait it out. Talk to your boyfriend or a close friend if you need help or support.

I would recommend not telling your mom till you find out for a fact. Whatever you do -- Good luck! Will pray for you!

Answer 3

Speaking as a mum, I really dont think there is any point in telling her first.

You are still her baby and always will be, your mum will still be adjusting to you leaving home and being at uni, which isnt easy for a parent, we worry constantly - is she ok, not drinking too much, doing her coursework, is she fitting in, meeting friends, getting enough sleep, eating properly, all these things and more will be running through her mind. And yes, parents are aware that teens have sex, so they worry about that too.

The last thing she needs is the worry that you may be pregnant. Not only will she be imagining your life in ruins and not being able to finish uni, but if you arent pregnant, she is going to constantly be worrying about wht you are doing all the time you are away.

Your doctor uses the same test you can buy in the pharmacy, so its still the same odds using their test. If you are 16 days late, you my be pregnant, but I really think you would be showing a positive test by now.

The problem with periods is that the more you worry about it not arriving, the more it stays away. Ive been there a few times, believe me! Sometimes your body clock just gets bit messed up, something like being at uni could cause that, a chnge of lifestyle can mess up your internal workings a bit.

By all means go to the doctor, but I really would have though that you would show a positive test by now, so I really dont think theres anything to worry about. Dont make your mum worry any more than she needs, if you turn out to be pregnant, then go to her and take all the advise and support she can give you, but dont let her worry unnecessarily.

Good luck! xx

Answer 4

I think it may be best to wait until you've seen the doctors. You don't really want to upset your mum, and then find out it was a false alarm. Take a friend with you to the doctors as an extra pair of ears. Sometimes the more you think you may be pregnant the more your period stays away! If you are pregnent, then you need the support of your mum. When you tell her take the same friend with you if it is easier. I'm sure your mum will be supportive. Probably shocked at first(which may show itself as anger and crying), but she's your mum and she will be there for you. Having been in the same situation before I know how scary it is. Besy of luck, and i hope it all works out x

Answer 5

Dont consider telling her untill you have found out for sure go see a docter have a blood test to see.id think if your 16 days late and still having negatives your chances are you arnt pregnant and if you are your hcg is low which indicates complication such as ectopic pregnancy or miscarriage.I really wouldnt panic i dont think you have a reason to.Stress can cause a late period along with many other things.

Answer 6

I wouldnt tell your mum until you have been to see doctor, if your still testing negative at 16 days late then I would think that your likely not to be pregnant, stress can play a big part in delaying a womans period. See what your doctor says then speak to your mum. good luck

Answer 7

Find out first, just think how she'll feel if you tell her and then you find out you're not. Why give her the stress, or possibly the anticipation for no reason? Its only going to be a few days before you know for sure. Then would be the time. Do it face to face though, and make sure you've thought through how you intend to deal with it.

Answer 8

Don't tell her until you are sure, why worry her and let her into a secret like that unless there is something to worry about. Those tests are 99% accurate, what stops them working is if you try too soon or don't use them properly. So its unlikely that you are pregnant. I once went to my Dr and he said there was no need, if the test was negative then I wasn't pregnant. Its the same test that they use.

Answer 9

there is a huge possibility that you got a false negative, so you should always take the test at least twice. I think you should tell her after it is definite, because she might get her hopes up or something and then you dissapoint her by it not being true. I would just be honest with her and use a sheild/helmet if she's anything like my mum!

Answer 10

Hmm that is a tough one- I was 19 and pregnant too- and I thought about abortion, (before telling my mom) and then decided no to abort-- So then I HAD to call my mom cause I needed my birth certificate to get on Medi-cal, for a doctor... well, after I asked for that-- she just knew--- And then she suggested adoption.... anyway, when I finally wanted to keep my baby-- she was happy when he got here-- and he is 2 now... and the love of my life!!! SO- I think if you dont know YET dont tell her--- but, when you do know if you are --- tell her asap!!!