I have no idea what to do... I mean ... ughh. My boyfriend is like amazinggg. But he goes to parties a loot and everything. I love him dearly. But he smokes and drinks a loot. I have to metion that I am 14 and he is 15. Okay.. I love him. But all of a sudden he hung out with this guy named Eric and he gets him to go to parties and drink and toke up. But that just isnt me I get embrassed when people come up to me and tell me how stupid my boyfriend was acting at a party. I like another guy that is straight egde (which means he doesnt do drugs or have sex..etc.) What should I do I love my boyfriend but he is just out of control and that other guy I dont have to worry about him cheating or anything like that.
2007-02-05 04:17:56 · 10 answers · asked by xMercedesx 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you are only 14.. there are many other guys out there, get rid of him, esp if you like someone else and are worried about your current boyfriend cheating on you. If hes only 15 and acting out of control now, just think about how hes going to be when hes older, the poor kid probably has no future becides jail. You would be a lot better off with someone that doesnt do these things, and wont drag you into their bad habits.
2007-02-05 04:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by meg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was (still am) in a similar situation...I'm about the same age, and he doesn't go to parties and doesn't smoke, but he's been on the borderline of cheating and he has no problem with sex. And I have a really good friend that is straight edge, like you said, and I've always kind of liked him. Anyway, being in the same situation, I understand why you don't want to leave your boyfriend. But you can't change him, and even if you tried, he's not going to let you. If he says he loves you, he probably does, but two people saying they love each other is not going to make the relationship work. Tell him how you feel, that you really like him, but your priorities are different and you think you would both benefit from some time away from each other. You'll still see him at school, right? Don't blow him off when you see him or anything, but don't do anything that symbolizes being in a relationship with him either. Just wait and see what he does in the long run. He might become a totally different person. You're smart enough to make the decision...I just hope you're stronger than I am and you can actually do it.
But remember, people on here don't know you or your boyfriend, so we can't really tell you what you want to know. Ask your friends and see what they say. They always have the best opinion, don't they?
I hope it works out for you!
2007-02-05 08:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to talk to him, say how your feeling about his wild partying an how it makes you feel, say how that isn't you. He can't respect you much! It seems to me that all he cares about is getting drunk and being stupid with his friends. You don't want a boyfriend that doesn't put you first. An if he doesn't want to change i don't really think it is a good idea for you to carry on seeing him...even if you do love him. Because you wont be happy! And don't want to risk getting involved with the people he is. Your young an deserve to have fun without fretting over him, an worrying about if he has cheated! But like you said there is another boy there who sounds good for you, so if your boyfriend doesn't want to change...why not get with him?
2007-02-05 04:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is out of control. he's gonna end up taking you down with him. If that isn't you than why does he subject you to his behavior. He doesn't respect you..all he cares about is getting wasted. Do you really want a boyfriend like that? And even if you don't have another guy to go to..you still need to get away from him. I'm sure you do care about him..but honey, you are 14. You have no clue what real love is about.
2007-02-05 04:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by skybelle24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you like your boyfriend that much and he likes that much back, he should understand that you don't like it when he acts that way, the biggest thing in a relationship is trust and if you dont have that, maybe he isnt the right one for you. im sure you care about him, but sometimes when people get wrapped up in drugs and everything, its hard to see what else is there, believe me i know, i'm 16 and ive done enough, and i kno there were people along the way that ive hurt b/c of i and that i would do differently if they had said somethin. okay i just typed a novel so im gunna stop, but i hope i helped
2007-02-05 04:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a little too much. I think the best thing to do is to break it off, and then take some time before you start to date the other guy because he could take that as him being the rebound, and most people don't like being the rebound.
2007-02-05 11:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by B.Cheeks.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl u need to break up with the guy that u love ...it know its gonna be hard but if he is getting drunk doin drugs who know who else he can be messing with...(not WHAT else WHO else) when YOUNG guys get messed up they mess who ever they want it dont matter if they gotta girl or not..u need to go with someone who will treat u with some respect..which is that guy that u mentioned up in ur question...Good luck and do the right thing...apparently he dont love u if hes gonna go out there and act dumb...U know what to do girl....u and him aint gonna work out..
2007-02-05 04:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you love someone that acts that way? You are 14 and very young. Why tie yourself down to someone especially someone like that?
2007-02-05 04:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from the drugs and booze.
2007-02-05 05:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2007-02-05 08:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋