Is it done? or I still have time to think? (only genuine answers plz)?

Question

Hey,

I am engaged but not ready to marry the same guy whom I was in love with. I dont know why it is happening but now small small things and issues look so big to me. I always think negative. I am running away from marriage but I cant keep this within me. I need to tell this to somebody in my family else they'll fix up the dates asap. I dont know how to tell this coz all will feel i am bad and no one will like me, the guy is very gud and he will say bad for me. But I really feel sometimes that he has changed a lot and moreover he is an emotional guy and I am very practical :(

Also, he talks some non veg over the phone which I really dont like.... I dont know why but sometimes I really feel bad when he say all such I cut the phone and say bad abt him but next moment when he feels sorry I am ok.

I am very confused what to do? I cant see him upset that's why I said yes for this but again I can't make him upset. Now I have started thinking about my life also.

Hey,

I am engaged but not ready to marry the same guy whom I was in love with. I dont know why it is happening but now small small things and issues look so big to me. I always think negative. I am running away from marriage but I cant keep this within me. I need to tell this to somebody in my family else they'll fix up the dates asap. I dont know how to tell this coz all will feel i am bad and no one will like me, the guy is very gud and he will say bad for me. But I really feel sometimes that he has changed a lot and moreover he is an emotional guy and I am very practical :(

Also, he talks some non veg over the phone which I really dont like.... I dont know why but sometimes I really feel bad when he say all such I cut the phone and say bad abt him but next moment when he feels sorry I am ok.

I am very confused what to do? I cant see him upset that's why I said yes for this but again I can't make him upset. Now I have started thinking about my life also.

Answer 1

If you think it's over, it's over. Don't believe me? Try this: Take a good long look at him. Picture yourself sitting in a chair next to him when you're really old. Can you imagine it? Would you want to be there? If not, or if you don't feel happy about the years you've spent with him, say goodbye. He's not the right person. When you find someone who you can't imagine NOT being with when you're old and grey, then he's the one.

Answer 2

If you're not ready to marry him - don't do it. You still have time. Don't marry him because you feel sorry for him. You'll fell even worse if you go trough with it and end up finding out that you're not happy at all. You'll divorce him and make him feel bad again. Think about yourself first, than him. You will be the unhappy one. Are you willing to give up your life just because of a guy who'll cry? My mom married my dad because she felt sorry for him. She divorced him and admits now that marrying my dad was the biggest mistake of her life. Don't make her mistake. Good Luck.

Answer 3

NO. You need to harden your heart, and be tough. You said yes because he was upset? How upset do you think he would be to know that you don't love him unconditionally. Stop the process now - before it's too late. Never accept a marriage proposal unless you are prepared to spend the rest of your life with this man - and accept who he is, and his habits. At this rate, you are guaranteed a failed marriage.

Answer 4

Read what you wrote , You answered It .Your not ready.
Youth has an idea marriage is the cure all for everything.
If you need advise on marriage type it in your toolbar you will be there for weeks.Relationships take years to make ,so take your time. Good luck

Answer 5

it somewhat is from The Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) final Sermon : All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; additionally a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white different than by employing piety and stable action. learn that each and each Muslim is a brother to each Muslim and that the Muslims signify one brotherhood. no longer something would be valid to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim except it became into given freely and willingly. do no longer, for this reason, do injustice to yourselves.

Answer 6

YOU ARE NOT READY TO MARRY. It's really as simple as that. Stop the wedding date immediately before you make the biggest mistake of your life.