How do you deal with crazy mother-in-law?

Answer 1

You don't have to - make certain your husband understands that you plan to avoid all contact with her unless she begins to act normal and treat you with respect. It is his mother and his responsibility to get her in-line. She should get the message and, though not stated, will imply that it could affect her access to the grandchildren if she doesn't straighten up.

Answer 2

You need to be more specific. What is crazy about her? If she is just too intrusive, your husband needs to take her to lunch and explain to her that his wife is now #1 in his life and she is #2. She is welcome to be part of your family, but she needs an invitation to come over, and she needs to respect your house rules. Her traditions, take second place to your new family traditions. If you include her in holidays and family events that are important, that is a good thing. If you have children, it is wise to let them see her as often as possible. Most children really love their grandparents. They will grow to resent you later (I did) if you don't let them see their grandmother. Be as loving as you can be while you state the rules for your family. If this is your spouse's mother, your spouse needs to do the talking about this issue. If your spouse won't do this for you, then you have a marital problem.

Answer 3

You have to step up to the home base plate and take charge of your life and your marriage.

You don't say how or what is making her crazy. Care to add more?

Get caller ID, so you can see if she's calling. Don't answer the door if she comes over.
Please explain what makes her crazy.

Answer 4

It depends on if your husband is a total "momma's boy" or not. Mine used to be, and it made it very difficult. I would try to talk to him about my problems with her because I didn't want him to be left in the dark. If I upset his mommy, either his mommy or his sister would call our house when I wasn't home and scream to him about how evil I am, so whatever. I had figured that if I talked to him about it, it would be better because his mother would be more likely to listen to him. Wrong. He would ask me to stop being so hard on his mom. Yuck, it makes me almost vomit just thinking aobut it. I finally figured out that he just wanted to be left out of it. So, I got sick of being accused of "stealing her son", so I just called her on the carpet about it. I told her, "yeah, that's why I badgered him to go see you in the hospital even when he wouldn't. That's why I remind him of your birthday every year and tell him he should call you. He doesn't even know when your birthday is. That's why I go to family functions even when he can't or doesn't want to. Check your facts, lady." Now, we just don't speak. A lot of the time when a husband acts like he doesn't care about how you feel about his mother, he really just doesn't want to be involved in the drama because it's stressful. Leave him out of it and deal with the hag one-on-one. Not only is it a gread adrenaline rush when you tell her like it is but your husband is happier (in general and with you) when he doesn't have to deal with it. When she keeps yelling at him about how he should "stop his wife's behavior" and you are all peaceful about it around him, you'll come out smelling like a rose. He'll get sick of his mother eventually and tell her where to stick it.

Answer 5

Try to avoid her as much as you can and if you do have to be in the same room with her, let everything go her way. That way, you're gonna avoid arguments and drama.

Answer 6

stay away from them as much as you can and kill them with kindness. but if they are over the top cut them lose

Answer 7

do what i do,i've been married 2yrs and still don't go around my in-laws.