"I dont know whats wrong with me.. maybe im scared of commitment again or its to soon.. i dont want to be in a serious relationship yet .. im not ready.. i hope u understand and i never want 2 hurt or lead anyone on. Im confused and dont want to confuse anyone else or not be the person they deserve. You r a bright and beautiful woman with needs.. u please me when im wit u .. i just cant give u more.. "
He's a very busy guy - very involved with work - and a single father - but I really, really like him.
he's away right now for work - he wont be back for a few more days, maybe a week
2007-02-05 03:56:08 · 27 answers · asked by loved 1 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It depends on what your needs are. Relationships require a lot of adaptability and compromise. If you think this guy is worth doing whatever it takes to make it work, then give it some time and be patient. BUT, listen to what he's saying. In the words you use, he is saying that HE isn't ready, willing and able to do what it takes to make it work. He can't give you a stable relationship. If you can handle a relationship of convenience for now, it may pay off in the end. It's a calculated risk.
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2007-02-05 04:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how I came across your Q. but, After my divorse from my 1st husband.:) I dated a little and then Feb. 2002 I met this wonderful man with lots of compliments and a man with 2 kids. He has his own business and very busy as well. At first he was the same way. We were seeing each other alot and then he told me the same thing... But then after a very small break he realized he wasn't as happy without me around. Our kids are wonderful and we have been married now since 2005!! We are like 2 newly weds together all the time. Once he realized it was me that made him happy and not his voice in his head.
Good luck hunny I hope everything works out for you.
I will be praying.
2007-02-05 04:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said he isn't ready he isn't ready. Are you ready to wait? It may never happen. You will never come before his kids and he will have to work to take care of the kids. SO unless you are not in a rush and dont care that if in 2 years he still says the same thing and it doesn't bother you that you waisted those years of your life when you could have meet someone else and had your own family by then then wait and see what happens but I dont think he will change his mind. Its up to you if you stay or not! Sorry
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2007-02-05 04:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly and truly- if a guy really wants you, he will do anything
to do just that. I would tell him good bye and find someone else.
He is not afraid of commitment- a man that has a good job
is a father, and maybe was married before is not afraid of commitment-trust me. My good friend was just told something
very similar by her boyfriend and she wasted a few years with him.
It maybe that he is just recently divorced or separated too, and
if thats the case-run for the hills, it takes a guy a long time to
get over that situation. Good luck
2007-02-05 04:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Laura G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously a waste of your time. It will hurt but let him go. Life is too short to waste on a person who is "afraid of commitment." Enjoy your life with someone else. I don't know where your relationship status is or how involved you are in with the man you are dating but I hope you will find the resolution to your question. Good luck.
2007-02-05 04:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by porselin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to move on and find someone new. He's try to take the easy way out and make you feel like you didn't do anything wrong. So if you are a bright beautiful woman like he says, I'm sure you can find someone who wants to spend time with you.
2007-02-05 04:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by RoseMarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to tell you he doesn't want a serious relationship, at least right now. It's up to you to decide what you want. If you're ok with a casual relationship with this guy, then accept what he said and continue enjoying your time with him. If you are looking for a serious relationship, you have a choice. You can continue your relationship with this man with hope that eventually he'll want more, or break up with him and look for someone who wants what you want.
The ball's entirely in your court. Whatever you decide to do, just be straight with him.
2007-02-05 04:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is honest. Caring, obviously and he has a TON on his plate.. You need to give him time. Casual is the way to go, be there for him, but dont wait around.. There is a song that says
~it's alright cause I know what you want but you'll just have to wait
if I had to give
I would give it away ~
Some people just CANT give it.. If he thinks it too much to soon...It prolly is, and you need to accept that answer
2007-02-05 04:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by dana_king01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 11:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a lot on his plate right now. I would give him some space and let him know that you are there for him but not putting any pressure on him. Sounds like he just needs to sort some things out.
2007-02-05 04:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Marenight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋