My wife and I were interested in having a threesome. We've been to swinging parties, but we've never swapped. She has expressed interest with another women. Curiosity is her thing. She watches "Sex and the city" all the time and that's where she got the idea. I told her to bring one of her friends she trust. This way, we have confidence that her friend is clean instead of trying it with a total stranger or sex worker. What was your first experience with a threesome and how did you approach it?
2007-02-05 03:56:01 · 7 answers · asked by Mr. Mui 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sucked. I might try it again with a woman that was not my friend, because that was weird. I didn't want to touch her.
2007-02-05 04:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people - male and female - are bi-curious or they fantasize about "extra-marital" fun. Some even follow through with it. Most do not.
Here's my suggestions and warnings:
1) Our threesome(s) were with a very close male friend who was divorced for a while and not yet into another relationship. There's always the risk of ruining a good friendship, but that's a chance you have to decide to take. It worked out very nicely for us.
2) There is always the possibility that either partner will experience feelings of jealousy, uncertainty, bad self-image or performance anxiety. It happens all the time. Your relationship had better be "rock solid" and you had better both be on the same page for this kind of fun. Never think that it will "fix" some problem in the relationship.
3) Talk it over with all three parties first.
4) Have safe sex and have fun.
2007-02-05 04:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go back and look at that Sex and the City episode. She'll see that "Three is a crowd". It doesn't really work out for anyone, even Samantha who kicks that hot young thang out of bed.
Anyway, I haven't done it personally but I know of at least two marriages that have ended over threesomes. And the reason is a combination of two things: The first is good old fashioned jealousy. The second, is what happens if that jealousy is founded when you suddenly realize you'd rather be with this other woman?
But here's the problem. It's like eating blow fish, it MIGHT be amazing, but you don't know how you'll react to it until it's too late. And it is a huge risk to take.
So anyway, that's something to think about. Best wishes to you and your wife.
2007-02-05 04:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by arwens_curse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a good experience because it was with a girlfriend and a girl she had dated off and on. There was a history and trust between them, so there were no real awkward issues to deal with. It's not going to be a good time for most. The woman has to truly be into girls and no one involved should have jealousy issues.
Plus that's your wife. Do you really want to get involved in something like that with the woman you married? It's more of a dating/experiment thing.
2007-02-05 04:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all... I think this would be wrong and cause problems and heartaches down the road... Not worth it trust me. Dont even go there! You are only asking for trouble and problems and possibles stds.
2007-02-05 04:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah i respect myself and my girlfriend...sex should only be between the two lovers
2007-02-05 04:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by The J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i did it once, i was drunk, heartbroken and wasn't thinking. i wouldn't do it again.
2007-02-05 04:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋