i m sexually unsatisfied with my husband?

Question

i have a gr8 marriage a very lovely and cute kid but sometimes my hubby is not able to satisfy me becoz of his premature ejuculation
i cant leave him i love him like anything he is a very good husband but this is creating problems between us
we did some medication also but my hubby thinks that is becoz of tension he get tensed in very small things which generolly happen in daily life i m not finding a way out
wat to do tell me plz

Answer 1

you need to have sex more often. No, seriously you do. If you only have it once in a while he is built up and will go faster. However, if you have it often enough, it should take him longer the second time. Use alot of foreplay for yourself first. Make him gratify you first. It's more fun anyway. Communicate...very important in this area of a marriage too. Don't be afraid to ask for things. It'll make you both feel better.

Answer 2

If you love him then look at all your options..do some research online and see if there is anything that has come out recently for that condition. Otherwise work on finding other ways beside intercourse he can satisfy you, for instance maybe loger oral sex sessions, or maybe something like that. Explore every option and exhaust every avenue before giving up.
He probably feels worse than you do, also if the pressure is on for him to perform sexually, it was also make his condition worse. Because he becomes nervous etc.
Make sure to take some pressure off of him also.
But, really research and read all you can to get a clear picture of what you guys can do, and how you two can help this.

Answer 3

doesnt sound like unsatified to me, it seems more of insatiable. It seems that sex has become addictive for you. It has been so good that you are sprung! Start exercising more. When you start feeling all warm and buttery inside go to the gym and work it off, get into the best shape of your life, then join the porn industry. Might as well capitalize on this malady. At least you will make good money turning tricks. Because if you dont, you will be a broke divorcee anyhow. Your husband will NOT understand, just as most wives dont understand when it happens to guys.

Answer 4

This condition is very treatable. While some medications are coming to market for extreme cases, generally P.e. can be treated via therapy.

Google 'squeeze technique' and 'stop-start' with regards to premature ejaculation. HAVE HIM FOLLOW THE PROGRAM. Also - you will be a part of it. The basic idea is for him to start off practicing masturbating for a reasonable amount of time - 10 to 15 minutes. He has to learn to be very aware of how excited he is, and learn when to back off, when to speed up. Once he has good control masturbating, moves on to doing the same thing with you manually stimulating him, then moves on to oral (if that's part of your sex life) then moves on to sex.

There are some other parts too, generally. You need to practice having him get you off manually/orally. While it may not be your 'preferred' way, its important that he not feel the pressure that CANNOT have an orgasm till you get off or he ruins your evening. That DOES put a lot of pressure on, and pressure = p.e. So he needs to not worry about it, and have a fallback plan.

If you are willing to help, encourage him to follow the program. Since it involves moving from masturbation to daily handjobs/bj/sex for him, I'd imagine he'd be okay with it :p

Other 'smaller' tips that help .... have sex more often. If my wife and I have sex every few weeks, I fight p.e. If we have sex every other day, she complains I last too long.

Have sex twice. The second time he'll last much longer.

You want to work on this together, but keep it light, help take the pressure off him. If you have a situation where he feels like if he 'blows it', its ruined, its going to be difficult. If he feels like if he finishes too fast, he'll get you off manually/orally and try again in an hour, there's a lot less pressure.

You can fix this in, realisitcally, a matter of months. THen you have your whole lives ahead of you

Answer 5

If he's experienceing premature ejaculation, you should make a schedule for awhile. Plan your "sex" nights. About 1/2 before the actual time together, have him go into a room, and masterbate. Once he does this, his next go around should last longer. It's worth a try anyways for now.

My boyfriend can't get me to reach orgazim either. It makes me not even to want to have sex with him. We try toys, but the way he trys to use them on me, isn't working either. I'm thinking it's his "touch" I'm not enjoying. But I'll try awhile longer to see if it works.

Have you and hubby tried toys in the bedroom? Maybe that may help.

Answer 6

You should be happy that you excite him so much.fore play teach him to think about you,& show him differen't way to make you feel great ,If he looses it bring him back to life slow passionate love making It will bring him back.Play together. Remember you have 2 head to play with,both independed of each other , one say uhuh the other say yes ,Keep exploring you will find what it takes.Take a shower after and kick start him again .The more you relieve him the longer he will last.
So much for s-x class 101 Good luck Keep it u-

Answer 7

selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors SSRI's for short are drugs normally used for depression, but are increasingly used as PE treatment. One of the side effects of SSRI's is delayed orgasm or the inability to have an orgasm (in higher doses). Smaller doses of these drugs can delay orgasm in men to a greater or lesser degree. I'm not making this up it is true. Since your husband get "tensed" up easily, maybe a course in antidepressants will help him with both problems. Talk with your Dr. And BTW don't waste your money on "herbal" and "natural" cures as they are all a load of shite and don't work unless it by the power of suggestion.

Answer 8

Make sex a spontaneous as possible and try not to create anxiety for your husband, like you must perform or else. Make sex a fun event and try new ways of touching each other, talking to each other, etc. make sex fun and he will most like be able to relax and perform the way you want him to. It might take practice and time, but it will be worth it. Besides he sounds like a stand up guy.

Answer 9

Patience, and persistance. Try reading the Kama Sutra with him - there are lots of ways for him to pleasure you excluding intercourse. Too much pressure can also be a downfall - if he feels like he's failing you, it can affect his performance. You need to boost his ego and confidence, and good things will follow.

Answer 10

There is a product called the Brush (I think its called that) or the China brush that will help with his premature ejaculations and will end up with you being satisfied.