Is it right for a 14 yrs old daughter to expect her parents to raise her child??

Question

Nowadays most teenagers in the north expect their parents to raise their child(ren).... How can we get the message to teenagers to use protection in remote communities?

Answer 1

Sex education has to start at home. Schools can promote it but there has to be some home training going on! At 14 a mother should know what her daughter is doing or not doing and should have educated her better. At that age I was never left alone to "discover" things on my own. Certainly the adult in the picture didn't "let" her have sex in front of them. And as far as raising the baby.... Oh my mom would have beaten the crap outta me then made me work my *** off in order to support that child as much as possible. Don't even think about quiting school either. That would be the easy way out!

Answer 2

We really need to consider what our society has turned into. When I was 14, I didn't think about sex, let alone boys. However now when you turn on the television or hear the different remarks from family members still in school, it startles me on how much the kids are too much like adults. I believe that if a 14 year old finds herself in the position of having a baby, she should take the responsibility, reguardless of age, and do right for her actions. Her life changes when she has the baby. And lets face it, she is now another statistic in the child raising a child factor. I praise her family if they stick beside her and help her with raising the baby, but it is not there entire responsibility and I don't feel that it should be expected.
I feel that our school systems should have 2 programs starting from the junior high on up. Most schools have the abstinance program, but I also feel they should have the program that prepares young adults for the possiblity of pregnancy at a young age. For example, what you should do if you find yourself in a situation, hospital care, care for your baby etc. Lets face it, young adults are having sex and there is no use with ignoring it. I just wonder if we provided 2 different programs for these kids, would it show them that sex at a young age really isn't all that it is cracked up to be?

Answer 3

I don't know what you're considering "north" but I think it happens everywhere. I agree with helping the teenager, to an extent. If it's possible, I think the grandparent(s) should maybe provide daycare so the mother can go to school and/or work. Face it, she's not going to be able to work enough to afford it, unless she lives with her parents and that is her only expense along with transportation to/from school and work. Maybe the teen should get in a work program at school. You know, work half the day, in school half the day (but that's probably not available at 14). Then she could make some money to cover expenses. I don't think the grandparents should watch the child all the time, especially so the teen can go out partying with friends and "be a teenager". I'm sorry to say it, but that kids just going to have to miss out on that. Kids today don't understand the lesson, "you made the bed, you have to lie in it." I think a teenager with a child should live with his/her parents if possible, but a line needs to be drawn somewhere so that the child isn't confused about who mommy is. I know of one girl, when I was a substitute teacher, whose daughter called her by her first name and called the grandmother "mommy" because the grandparents looked after her more than her mother. The mother's parents said, "she's missing out on being a kid." To sum it up. I think the mother should be there as much as possible and be allowed to go to school and work, with little to no social life, that's part of it. Welcome to motherhood. If the mother is not allowed to take the steps to improve her life, she and the child will always be dependent on other family and/or the state for survival. It's not the ideal situation, of course, but the baby cannot be punished for his/her mother's mistakes. The mother should be helped, and she'll need it a lot, but a situation should be maintained to facilitate her to improve her life situation so she can fend for herself with the child. The grandparents should not be taken advantage of.

Answer 4

Well, she is still a child and her parents are responsible for everything she does. How did they allow this to happen? I have a 12 yr old at home, almost 13. He is never left alone long enough to have this oppotunity. Sounds like the parents have failed and are responsible for this anyway. 14, give me a break. We are not talking about a 16- 18 yr old. 2 - 4 years makes a big difference.

Answer 5

Most black people in the US have been raised by their grandmothers for the past 30/40 yrs. Ever since the liberal welfare
system began isolating & destroying the black family unit in the USA
It is not right, it is a bad idea and destroys the extended family unit
as well as promoting promiscuous irresponsible sexual activity.

Answer 6

Raising a child with values would render this question obsolete. For starters, my daughter at 14 would not be having a baby. She is underage and I would not permit it. I blame the parents for not educating and supervising this child.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I think thats kinda sad. I am 15 and I am taking care of my daughter. If they cannot take care of their child or can love and care for them, there are alot of unfortunate couples that cannot have children of their own. adoptions is an answer and there are places that allow visits to see how she/hes growing. great program

Answer 9

i'm 19 and my parents are helping me. babysitting while i go to work and all that. i am a single parent cuz the loser decided to cheat on me and subsequently leave me. that is not my fault. so they watch him while i work, but i do nothing else. that is all i do. i don't go partying and i don't really have any friends. but without my parents i wouldnt know what to do because i can't afford a babysitter (he's 2 months old) and i can't depend on his father. he's never even seen him.

Answer 10

Start a program! Call your government and find out how they can help, call the news channels and get it rolling. Go to schools get the word out.