I'm male and my freind suddenly bacame a gay . now he is impressed with me
2007-02-05 03:31:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He didn't "suddenly" become gay.
He finally realized and/or admitted it.
Let him know his boundaries.
2007-02-05 03:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by A Word In Edgewise 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
The fact he is gay may have shocked you -- but I'm sure he knew and struggled with it for a long time. One knows by a very early age that one is gay. Some people have a support structure and can embrace it at puberty -- others have been taught to hate it and turn that hatred on themselves for a time -- hiding what they are -- but they know.
You say he is impressed with you -- if you mean he wants to go out with you, then its simple, you do the same thing you would do with a girl you didn't want to go out with, and say no. It works the same way.
On the other hand, if you do want to go out with him, then tell him yes.
Believe in yourself, and believe in him. It is hard to come out for many people. He is to be congratulated. I wish you both well.
Regards,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-02-05 13:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey no one is "instantly" Gay I am sorry. He has had to be gay for a while he just came out of the closet! If he is impressed with you I can only ask how do you feel about him??? If ya want you can e-mail me and I can get into depth about it.
2007-02-09 10:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Fighting Irish Lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have straight male friends, and contrary to a popular belief, I'm not out "turn" them gay. Why would your friend want to do the same. It's possible that he is attracted to you, yes, but like the other poster said, talk to him and tell him that you hope to remain friends, but that you'll never be anything more than that. That is if you are truly his friend. True friends don't judge such things as sexuality. If you had another friend who you discovered liked to be spanked by his girlfriend, would you judge him for that? Ok....I'm rambling here....you get the picture.
2007-02-05 11:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by ramblin' robert 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it might be sudden news to you but definitely not to him. You don't wake up one day to become Gay person. You decide one day to accept it and live with it and enjoy your life instead of fighting it and this is when everybody would know about. He is impressed with you: that is normal. If you don't feel the same just tell him politely and clearly. There is no need to be rude or to hurt him.
2007-02-05 11:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jay C 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Your friend did not SUDDENLY become gay. He may, however, have suddenly decided to come out to you and is able to express his feelings and or compliments towards you more openly than before. Consider yourself a special person in his life
If he is your 'friend', he knows you are not gay!
2007-02-05 12:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, no one SUDDENLY becomes gay. Right? I presume he must have got a crush on you since quite a time. It must have demanded a lot of courage to come and tell you all this.
You may not be in love with him but don't despise him please. Just politely refuse him. And if you're really his friend, help him to settle down.
2007-02-05 11:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ieshwar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once again, make him aware that he isn't the right one for you. If he tries to flirt with you then don't go along with it. Change the subject and make sure that he knows that your aren't interested in him. Also, if you know anyone else with that sexuality, introduce him and maybe he will not be attracted to you anymore.
2007-02-05 13:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by MBm91 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree totally with Jay C. And I doubt your friend is "now" impressed with you...he probably has been for a long time now.
2007-02-05 11:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by behrmark 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Take it for the flattering compliment it is and be honest about your feelings - or lack there of, which ever the case. Hopefully you decide to continue the friendship!!
2007-02-05 12:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it wasn't sudden - well perhaps the final realisation/admission was. If he is expressing an interest in you, perhaps you could just tell him that you don't fancy him.
2007-02-05 11:54:43 · answer #11 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋