We talk about being serious (like marriage) and sometimes I'm okay with it. But other times I just think "I don't want to get married" and feel kinda panicky (I'm not some young or stupid kid either). Am I just scared or could it be I am with the wrong guy?? When you're with the right person do you still get feel claustrophobic and scared of marriage??
2007-02-05 03:27:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage is a big think. if i were you i would wait on it until your really sure if thats what you want. you dont want to get into anything to soon.
2007-02-05 03:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by redhot_001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could be scared. You could be with the right one and still be scared of marriage. Marriage is a BIG deal. It means forever and for always by a legal binding contract. Marriage could scare anyone in my opinion. Now if you have feelings that you might not be with the one then maybe you should take some time to think about whether or not your boyfriend is the guy for you. Otherwise if you know in your heart that you truly love your guy and are happy with him then you are probably just being human. All humans get scared of things. It is natural. In any case if these worries don't go away after you have thought about it then talk to your boyfriend. Honesty is the best policy no matter what the situation. Good luck!
2007-02-05 11:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is something you should wait for...you will always feel paniky, it's natural. Just think of never being with that person ever again, does that hurt you in any sort of way? If so, then you really love him. You must be ready, but having a long engagement isn't such a bad thing. You two should live together for a little while, you don't truly know someone till you live with them. Their dirty underwear next to the bed that never make it in the hamper, the toilet seat still up when they leave for work, the beer bottle half empty on the coffee table left over from last night, the little hairs all around the sink that he so carelessly cleaned up...all these things are something you have to look forward to, but they make me love him all that much more!
2007-02-05 11:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by sad red head 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should be something you should pray on as far as who to marry. Majority of people are afraid of marriage because they are afraid of being hurt. Our society portrays divorce as a option outside of marriage. Our society already favors that marriages won't last. However, marriage is hard work. And it may be the toughest task you may ever experience in your life. But it's worth it. The biggest mistake you can make when going into a marriage is placing high expectations on your spouse. High expectations results in a lot of disappointments. The best thing you can do is learn and understand what marriage is about. What does it take for it to work? What are the roles of the husband and wife, and other factors. Marriage is a committment. And you will be disappointed and hurt. But really understanding what love truly is will shape and mold you into who God wants you to be.
2007-02-05 12:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can, yes. Its the hugest commitment of you life! I've been married for over 2 1/2 years. I love my husband because he is my best friend. But, when we decided to get married i freaked out. In fact at our wedding, i was looking around trying to figure out which were the best emergency exits. I thought i was going to pass out at times also.I hardly remember the vows because i was coaching myself, telling myself it was all going to be okay. I wanted to be married but the concept scared me. I'm not scared anymore. Its kinda like a roller coaster you have never been on, there is a lot of hype behind that ride and you've heard mostly scary things about it.Then you go on it, and realize that its not nearly as scary as you thought it would be. Dont get married though unless you feel in your heart you want that.Its really not right for everybody.good luck
2007-02-05 11:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say you're with the wrong guy simply because when it's right, you know it and it's effortless. I got engaged to my now husband 3 months after we met - he asked me to go ring shopping with him after only 1 month of dating. We just knew. I was 25 and he was 32 at the time. We've now been married nearly 2 years and together for 4 years total and it's been great. There was never any doubt.
2007-02-05 11:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not ready yet. Or it could be cold feet about getting married. I was nervous on my wedding day, but I was happy. Are you happy with this person? Can you see yourself together for the rest of your life? If you can see yourself with that person for the rest of your life that is great and it's okay to be scared. It's a big step in life. If you can't see yourself with that person forever then maybe it's the wrong person. I wish you luck & I hope this helps. :)
2007-02-05 11:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jess_DH13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it's not the guy you've chosen, but the desire NOT to get married. Marriage is not for everyone. You can have a meaninful, loving, passionate romance with someone and not have to get that official "seal of approval" to have the same kind of relationship as a marriage.
Best of luck to you in whatever you choose to do!
2007-02-05 11:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not no but hell no! Make sure you live your life first. What I mean by this is make sure you have experienced:
At least 10 different dudes (its OK you are empowered now)
Friends with benefits
One night stands
At least one STD
First date sex
Threesome
Lesbian Encounter
And the list goes on.....
Once you have done this you can leave it all in the past and remeber the role it played in making you who you are.
Your husband way in the future will really appreciate it
2007-02-05 11:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for marriage do not get married!!!! Only when you are ready for marriage should you then get married... Right now you are not ready so no you should not want to get married as of yet!
2007-02-05 11:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasnt "claustrophobic and scared of marriage" maybe you need more time. Dont worry about it.
2007-02-05 11:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋