What sorts of things prevent couples from having good sex?

Question

This a real problem for many people I think.

Its a very big issue in my life right now.

Answer 1

Well you see communication is one of them. It is very important not to leave the room when you are upset. Just stay in the room and work things out. Start going out on dates. You should not ignore one another. I know that is hard but I think that listening to one another is the best thing to do. Start doing things you did when you first go together. Sex is something that is takes two. Some people just wait and see who will make the first move. Try making the first move and see what happen. Just stay married the divorce rate needs to go down.

Answer 2

1) Being inhibited. People who are scared to have orgasms, to ask their partners for what they really want, to be loud in bed, to voice dissatisfaction- all this will only lead to people not having the best sex possible.

2) Children. If you've got young ones in the house, it's often hard to have sex. That's not to say that you can't have fantastic sex as your kids grow up, but most people feel uncomfortable doing so, at least as often and as enthusiastically as they might in an empty house.

3) Lack of consideration for you partner. People get tired and irritable and start to take their partners for granted as always being there, always sexually open and available. That's when you start getting the 'wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am' sort of sex that is only satisfying to one person (usually the man, but not always).

4) Today's high-stress world. People come home from work exhausted, strung-out, and, suprisingly enough, find sex to be something they just don't have the energy for (or don't think they have the energy for; in fact, sex when you're tired is usually very good for you). So couples start to skip sex and eventually you come to mithless old couples who it seems never do the deed, sadly enough.

5) Getting stuck in a rut. If what's been good for the past ten years has been good, why change it up? Well, there's a difference between a rut and a routine; if it becomes a rut, one (or perhaps both) partners are bored and need to 'shake things up' and try something new and different.

Those are the main ones I can see. It really is a big problem, and I hope you and your partner can work things out and find better sex.

Answer 3

The last time I dated someone the problem was a lack of interest on his part. I always felt like I was initiating intimacy (for which he called me a sl*t) and more often than not, I satisfied any needs he had but he didn't reciprocate. So our problem was compounded by his selfishness.

An open, frank conversation with your partner about both of your sex drives, what you each like and dislike, and all of those other guiding factors should help you out. Sometimes just letting it happen isn't enough.

Answer 4

In my experience poor communication and lack of openness. If there is something that really turns you on, and you don't mention it, how are your lovers to know? Other causes can be lack of empathy or willingness to give as well as get. I believe that to qualify as good sex everyone involved must be fully satisfied.

Answer 5

Inhibition, I think is a big problem. Relationships losing their fire. There are also physical issues like impotence and what not.

Answer 6

Lack of emotion/passion

Sometimes I am a million miles away...thinking of other things that have NOTHING to do with what I am doing at that moment.

Answer 7

I think people sometimes don't feel comfortable explaining to their partner what they want. If they were open with each other it might be better

Answer 8

Too many to list, here are a few.

Anger
Incompatibility
Contempt
Dislike
Distrust
Impotence
Stress
...

Answer 9

i think if u dont have good emotion

and also
if u dont havethe right music

u have to have good music to have good sex =]

Answer 10

What's good for the goose, is good for the gander (or whatever).