Respect for the man you love?

Question

I’ve noticed this a lot. When a couple first gets together, women usually respect their man. Then as time goes on, they try to gain control of the relationship and don’t treat their spouse with the same amount of respect as they did during the “courting” stage because after courting the wives see their husband’s “flaws” so to speak. Then the nagging comes in. Can women respect the man they are married to long term?

Answer 1

First of all, men can lose respect for their wives. It goes both ways. With that said, if the woman starts controlling the relationship and nagging, it's because she married someone who either changed for the worse or she is wanting to change him. She really loved him the beginning, but her intentions were to change him into what she expects him to be. People can't change anyone who don't want to be changed. Just from my personal experience, once the man gets the woman in marriage, they sort of give up. Like they don't have to make any efforts anymore. Not so. Both people have to always work on making their marriage a happy one.

Answer 2

It's something that both the man and women learns as they grow together. In the courting stage we're blinded by infactuation and we overlook a person's flaws. But once we actually spend time with them after getting married we begin to think that the person we married isn't all that after all. The biggest mistake in getting married is placing unreasonable expectations on the other spouse and being impatient. We all have to remember that we come from different backgrounds(being raised differently). That's where communication comes in, and learning to effectively come to an agreement with each other when conflict arises. As you grow together and learn about each other and understand that the other spouses isn't perfect the both spouses will begin to respect each other and help each other in their weaknesses. that's a marriage!!! when you can look at the 2, even though their one, but together they're stronger than they were if they were single. Does that make sense?

Answer 3

No offense, but it sounds like you're a control freak who wants a servant, not a wife! Everyone has flaws, but because a woman points them out (and men do this too) doesn't mean she's disrespecting you, she's just sharing her option and probably trying to improve you as a person. Obviously, you shouldn't be with someone who only notices your flaws and doesn't appreciate your finer points. Respect must be earned, you can't force it and you should respect your wife/girlfriend first if you expect her to truly respect you.

Answer 4

Respect is something earned from me. I would never marry a dipshit in the first place so my respect for my husband has remained the same if not grown.

As for nagging... I don't nag... I ask him to do something and it gets done. If it doesn't get done, I do it myself and he feels bad. That feeling usually keeps him from NOT neglecting things when I ask in the first place.

I have a fabulous marriage and respect is very much a part of it and will continue to be as long as each of us act respectfully.

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Answer 5

when the man can respect the woman they married then yes the woman can respect the man they married.. it does go both ways sometimes.. we lose respect for the man because the man don't respect us..

Answer 6

I did that same thing after we got married i would catch myself trying to control him and being hateful.The reason women do that is because they put their heart on the line and they are terrified their man is gonna stop loving them or cheat on them or stop caring.Its no excuse i am saying thats why we do it.I have to stop myself from that,I just try to tell myself you can't control another person they are gonna do whatever they want and i can't stop him.I do this to keep me from pushing him away because i know if i try to control him in five or ten years it will get old and the very thing i was trying to prevent will happen he will leave me.People who try and control other people are scared of alot of things.Losing the person they love the most,not being loved enough,being made a fool of.We are this way because we have been abandoned,hurt,abused,betrayed...ect....Its not right and controlling people know that but if we take the time to ask ourselves why we do this we can stop because we know what the consequences are......

Answer 7

Yes. I believe many women lose site of what is expected from them as wives.

Men want and need respect to live up to their duties as husbands.

Woman want and need love.

It is our responsibilties as husband and wife to fulfill our role to each other. This makes for a lasting, loving and secure relationship.

I am not married. Yet. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and are now beginning to talk about marriage. We both have traditional views, so that helps.

Answer 8

Don't throw this on the women. The problem is they put on a show in the beginning and it isn't until we marry them that we see that. My husband used to do the dishes at my house after I would cook him dinner. We get married and now I cook dinner and he plops on the sofa. We don't just try to take control, we want back what we are putting in. Today's wife expects things to be even in the home because we are working just as hard as they are. Men are still trying to catch up to this idea. They grew up with mother''s staying at home and doing all the domestic stuff.

Answer 9

Yes, if he continues to be respectable. Not just because of flaws...everyone has those. But try to remember to be someone your wife and family can have respect for. Don't do things that will cause her to think less of you!

Answer 10

yes women can respect there man in the long term, why not i respect my husband and her respects me that is why we are still married alot of people don't understand that marriage is equal and give or take no two people will ever agree on everything so it is important to agree to diagree and to respect and love one another no matter what.....