i have had relationships with girls and i liked it a lot. but the last two weeks i have been thinking that might be bisexual or gay. this guy came to our school and talked about it and it made me think. since then i have fantasize about gay sex but i have no idea if i would ever act on it. it scares me to be gay because i know i would not like to be gay. i mean i haven't had a girlfriend in a year and i was wondering also if that could be a reason. i have not really been sexually active for a year either i was wondering if that could be the reason.
2007-02-05 03:09:28 · 6 answers · asked by confused 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well if someone came to your school and talked about being a Holocaust survivor do you think maybe you'd think about that for a few weeks, too? Wondering what it would be like, if you'd be able to survive those conditions?
Pretty much any time you hear a speaker that is talking about a really intense topic you'll continue to think about it later. That's why they have public speakers, to put a face and a story to huge issues.
So right now you have a few fantasies about men. Okay, so what? Straight people do occasionally wonder what it's like to be with someone of the same sex, just like a person might wonder what it would be like to be a firefighter or pilot.
It's not like you had the fantasies before, and the fantasies may subside. Worrying about it right now will only cause a lot of unneccessary stress. It's obvious you like girls, and not having a relationship for a year doesn't change that. If later on down the road you're still interested in guys, too, then take some time to figure out what that means for you. But right now you're just stressing yourself out over something that may just be a passing fantasy.
Being gay or bi is not a bad thing. But to worry about it now, when there's really no evidence one way or the other, is just not worth it.
2007-02-05 07:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - how old are you. It is not unusual to be straight and to fantasize about having a relationship with another guy or gal. If the thought of getting together with another guy turns you on and you want to try it, you may be bi or gay. Your comment about not wanting to be gay probably means you are scared of what your family or friends would say or how they would react. The fact you have not been sexually active for a year probably has little bearing on the thoughts you are having. If you are truly gay or bi, there is little you can do about it and fighting it will cause a lot more damage and stress than accepting the inevitable and going on from there.
2007-02-05 11:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Brent W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"This guy came to our school and talked about it?" That's really curious. Nothing you could be told would make you not be what you already were. You can't be "recruited" to be gay. What school would ever invite some to speak about sexuality, I wonder.
Most people are either gay or straight but susceptible to be being turned on by fantasies or by certain people. It doesn't mean anything. If you're still in your teens then you're still in the process of establishing who and what you are. No need to panic.
2007-02-05 11:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being sexually active means nothing. If you like relations with females & you're a dude; you're straight. Follow your heart & trust that fear. You are a guy.
Many people are not in relationships. This does not make them gay in the slightest. Even gay people can go without relationships. Would this make them straight?
You're straight, my friend.
2007-02-05 11:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you sound alot like me recently (read my last asked question) except i dont really want to have sex with him, but if you were sexually active a year ago, you are probably older than me, you may be bi, but dont worry about it, i would think it wd b better than being gay or straight coz u cn go for either, nd if you are worried about what others think, just dont tell them (except your close friends if you want) email me if you want more info.
2007-02-05 12:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Toujours 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fantasy. Straight people are permitted to fantasise about ANYTHING.
You like Girls you're either Bi or Straight
Question is have you seen a bloke on who you would really like to practise your fantasy?
Either way, having or not having a girlfriend and being inactive is irrelevant to your orientation.
Ever stop to consider that your fantasising about it simply because you're horny and not getting any?
2007-02-05 11:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋