What Should i do ?

Question

My girlfriend said that she needed some time ( for herself) i asked her are we on a break..... and she said no ..... Ok now i understand that she feels prob sufocated but see even after this time thing or even during .... everytime when i ask her out im gonna thing am i suffocating her ... is it to much time spend togheter ...... I think if 2 people love each other they should solve their problems talking not taking time apart ( i tried talking but everytime when i try we get in a fight) im on the verge to breakup but i dont want to feel sorry after i do it..........

I would like to know if there are any guys that were put on a break and what happen .... and girls if u put a guy on a break and what happen ....,.

Answer 1

In the same boat. My best advise to you is do what you feel is right in your heart. If you want it to work give her the space she needs but still talk to her and ask if there is anything you can do to help. Or just leave well enough alone and wait to see what happens. It's hard trust me i know I'm going through it myself right now.

Answer 2

Hey.
Ag shame you guys, I feel sorry for you!
I have to admit I have also put my guy on a slight 'break', but thats only because there was something I had to tell him and I didn't know how, then after him being patient and all, I explained everything to him and we worked things out.
Sometimes there are things on a girls mind and she just isn't sure how you'll react, what you'll do or if you might not understand her and get upset, thats why she tries to take the time to get her thoughts and words together.
If she comes back and says 'It was nothing' or similar, then don't push- she may have worked it out herself- as it may have been something in herself that she had to deal with.

Then again there was a time that I couldn't make up my mind between two guys and I didn't know what to do, so at times my b/f could see I was down, but I didn't run-away on a 'break' and he didn't pry, which I was thankful for, otherwise it could have destroyed our relationship, which would have been terrible. I realized after a while that I love my b/f and leaving him/being dumped (if he found out and didn't want to give me a chance to sort my feelings out) would have been possibly the biggest mistake of my life!

So, it could be anything, just have patience and understanding... but if it is an ongoing thing, tell her you want to know what is going on otherwise it is not fair on you, because you are in the relationship together, love her and will stand by her and work whatever it is out. If this fails, then tell her, sorry but you cannot go on like this- allowing her to run off as she pleases.

P.S. If the reason is because of something you do or say... please have an open mind and see it from her point of view, after thinking deeply about it, then talk to her about it, try not to jump to conclusions or get upset with her opinion.

All the best guys!
*Hugz

Answer 3

Speaking for myself as a female, in my own opinion i think if i would put a guy on a break, but not date other people.. would be because he was suffocating me, but i'd still love him as a person and who he is, but wouldnt know how to tell him to back off just a little. {this is if i were to put someone on a break}..

Normally, now i wouldnt put someone on a break, i'd just sit him down, and tell him what is bothering me and hope he didn't get offended, and not think that i love him any less.