We finally decided to call it quits due to too many indifferences. One being I like my house clean...lol, do you have any advice for me to quit being scared in my own house. He moved out this weekend and I am having trouble sleeping and I hear every little noise in the house. Talk to me please!!!
2007-02-05 02:52:14 · 26 answers · asked by Redd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Read your Bible every night and say a prayer to help you sleep. God has not given us the spirit of fear. Be blessed.
2007-02-09 16:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Moni B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
generally it takes a while to adjust to being alone. You miss a dog, a cat, a bird. So you know you miss a man, a partner, a companion. The house will adjust to you and you to it in a while. Many times when we are in a relationship we are so engrossed in that there are many sounds we have missed. It is not being scared. It is about learning to live alone and "like it." Take this time to get to know yourself better. Long bubble baths, a wine evening with your friends. Catch up on your reading, Start a new project. Walk around the house and look in the corners, make mental notes of crack, door ajar windows which allow the breeze. Any loss leaves a void in our lives and leaves us very vulnerable. Thus the sounds and the creaks in the house. It is your house reclaim it.
2007-02-05 03:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you don't have a real reason to be afraid. If you do, contact a friend or family member that might be able to stay with you for a little while.
Otherwise, if your just letting yourself get scared of little stuff, this is what I did. I lived in an apartment that freaked me out with little noises and lots of outside darkness (it was way out in the country). Anyway, I fell asleep with the TV on for a while with the blinds closed. Always read or watch something upbeat while you're alone. Even some upbeat music. Nothing creepy...Good luck.
2007-02-05 02:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just used to there being someone else there with you, so you didn't hear those noises. It is probably quiter now, so turn on a radio or tv for background noise.It is real hard to learn to sleep alone, try getting more pillows to take up some of the room in the bed. That way when you toss and roll at night you bump pillows,like when he was there.I have a pillow I hug, like holding someone as I go to sleep. We somehow get security from another person being there, we just have to realize we are secure, with or with out them. It will get better with time,trust me.
2007-02-07 02:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by Broadgonebiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try keeping a radio on in your room or falling asleep with the tv on. That's what i have to do every night to get some sleep. I'm the same way i hear every little noise!
2007-02-12 16:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by angie4154 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you get a dog? A dog could give you company and possibly make you fell more at ease. If you feel scared being alone, or if you live in a bad neighborhood then consider getting an alarm for your house.
2007-02-12 01:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by candib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, a whole weekend!! You need to relax and find out if the relationship is really over. If I had a dollar for every time I broke up then I would retire. Why are you afraid? Has he beaten on you? You have anxieties.
2007-02-13 00:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by diamondbullet66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. 4yr relationship but i felt better i packed his things and put them in one room and as far as the noise, i put a chair up to the door at night but i still have troubling sleeping sometimes. I started drinking teas and that helps too.
2007-02-09 13:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by keriss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your only problem was wanting a clean house, maybe u acted too rashly, maybe u love the man and don't really like living alone. u will feel awkward for awhile with him gone, u may want to reevaluate the situation and rethink it, as if this was the main reason for splitting up maybe the problems could be worked out.
2007-02-05 02:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal it is an adjustment trying to live alone after a long time. I got a dog he barks when there is something really important around but he just kept me company.
PS It was better than living with an idiot.
2007-02-05 02:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was like you too when my boyfriend and i first split....but i did learn to get over my fears. just listen to the house...i know that sounds strange, but you will notice that it is just the wind, or a branch, etc. you will be fine. make sure you lock the doors and windows if it makes you feel better. also, if you are that worried, get yourself a really good (marble) rolling pin...lol! hope it all works for you!
2007-02-10 14:13:38 · answer #11 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋