My cousins Mom past away yesterday / during the night.
I am always so tongue tied as to what to say.
Mom says, "CALL!"
I say, "TO SAY WHAT?"
Mom, "Tell her you offer her your condolences."
Me, "Good Lord, I'm not a Hallmark CARD - that sounds cheesy."
We were best friends and best cousins growing up till I hit 12 and moved to Fredericton. But during my adolences I lived at her house most of the time as we lived in a 1 bedroom house. Her Mom, was my 2nd Mom.
The years and us growing up put a distance between us. I was the maid of honour in her wedding. She now has 5 kids and is a stay at home mom. We talk and giggle whenever we see each other but we don't keep in touch on a regular basis.
I'm stumped - do I call?
If I call - what do I say? Sorry, I haven't been a great FRIEND while you were going through your Mom illness - DOH!
2007-02-05 02:12:19 · 6 answers · asked by Nicole T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call her and say im very sorry about your mother, she ment alot to me. and tell her that you will be there if she needs you.
2007-02-05 02:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by xjojox_wht_up 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find it difficult to call, send a card. Write a personal note in it. That's better than nothing. It's not all about you. They are going through a rough time and need any emotional support they can get.
2007-02-05 02:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cousins and friends.....and ur still thinking weather u should call or not?
this is the time she really needs u to be there....u need it too
u should have been there for her when her mother was ill ,but should feeling guilty stop u from calling her ?
i dont know ...but if i were u i'd be with her in such a rough time
2007-02-05 02:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call.. the last thing on her mind will be worrying about who was or wasnt there for her before.. she'll need people now more then ever. she'll remember it and b resentfull if u dont call at least... my mom died a few yrs ago and believe me its sad to say but u do remember who was or wasnt there for u. just say you sorry for he loss and that ur there for her if she needs u
2007-02-05 02:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - don't say anything about not being a great friend . . this isn't about you... it's ALL ABOUT HER !
Call her and just say, I am so sorry to hear about your mom, I am here if you need me, or just need to talk. I will keep you in my thoughts.
2007-02-05 02:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First God did no longer leave you on my own. he's waiting so which you may take your burdens. All you may do is provide them up. 2nd Romans 8:28 And all of us be attentive to that all and sundry issues artwork mutually for stable to them that love God, to them who're the referred to as in accordance to his purpose. that would not propose that each little thing will bypass the form you like. it relatively is saying in spite of the flaws that take place to us God will artwork it out for our stable. yet we would desire to stick to his purpose and his will. as quickly as we shy away for the duration of hassle we lose the blessing shall we acquire. Abraham became into in all probability heartbroken as he took Isaac up the mountain. yet whilst he had became lower back he by no potential might have discovered the ram and won the blessing.
2016-10-01 11:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by persaud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋