How can i tell her im pregnant?

Question

Im pregnant but very scared to tell my mom im not scared that she'll kill me or sumfin jus her reaction. I've know for bout 3 weeks nw n still haven't told her the longer i leave it the worse it feels please help!! I was thinkin of writing her a letter n leaving it on the bed for her when im at work is that bad at least then i can tell her my feelings without us aruin but im scared n confused

i am 19 years old n been wid my bf for nearly 2 years

Answer 1

just tell her i'm sure she will be ok. you say you have been with your b/f 2 years it's not like you've just met the bloke and got pregnant. don't write a letter talk to her face to face. i bet she already knows and is waiting for you to tell her-mums usually know these things. your be fine.

Answer 2

You must tell your Mum as sson as possible. After all, she will have to know eventually, and the sooner the better. I am sure that once she is over the shock she will be very supportive and delighted about becoming a grandmother. Sit her down, and calmly tell her your news. You don't say if the baby's dad is around, if he is, it may be helpful for him to be there too, then your Mum can see that you are being supported by him. You will need your Mum over the next few months, she would hate to think that you were scared to tell her about this. If you really feel that a letter would be better than doing it face to face, then do it that way, but I am sure that she would rather hear it from you. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 3

Congratulations!

Putting it in a letter is a lovely idea, you can take the time to word it carefully and really say what you want.

But I think before you do that, you need to make sure you and your boyfriend are okay with it. Is he standing by you, will you live together, how will you afford the baby, will you give up work etc etc Those are the questions she will ask so get the answers ready. If you are scared and ocnfused about the baby, tell her that in the letter, mum's are there to help their daughters and its okay to be worried.

Good luck

Answer 4

When my friends and I were teenagers, one of my friends fell pregnant. She was only 16 and had already splip from the baby's dad. She was terrified to tell her parents or anyone else for that matter. She didn't see a Dr and didn't even tell us until she was 12weeks. We begged and pleaded and pep talked her for ages into telling her parents even went so far as arguing but her fear outweighed her common sense. We even told her that if she was too scared to even tell her parents she was going to be a mother then waht kind of a mother was she going to be. Anyway, somehow, she managed to keep it secret from her parents until 5wks before she had the baby. Her parents were immediately supportive but very hurt that she had not told them sooner. Of course they were worried and even a little disappointed but could not understand what she had been so scarred about. They said they could have done so much to support her and done more to help her & baby if they'd known earlier. Within 2wks they'd managed to get her a cot, pushchair, blankets, carseat and all the bits and pieces she needed. Pregnancies last 9months because people need time to prepare and get used to the idea. Your mum needs this time too. So do yourself a favour and tell her as soon as you can, it doesn't matter how you tell her but I suggest that face to face is better. She probably will shout and she most definately will cry but ultimately she's gonna want to give you a huge hug and tell you evrything's gonna be ok.
Good Luck to you, I hope everything works out!

Answer 5

dont write a letter.Its very immature, your 19 years old if your adult enough to have sex then your adult enough to handle what comes along with it. Just sit your mom down and tell her the truth. She'll be upest because your young and un married but the reality that a baby is coming will set in and she'll be fine. I know its scary but she'll be alright. Im 23 and married and i was still scared to tell my mom that im 1 month along but when i told her she was sooo happy. She may surprise u!! Good luck!

Answer 6

Just tell her. It really is the best way. She will help you (after probably shouting at you for being so careless etc etc) She is the one who will not let you down. Discuss it with her, tell her you are sorry you have disappointed her and really want and need her advise for the future.

Mums are there to help as you will find out in time when you have your own child.

Don't worry it is not the end of the world, just the start of a new life.

Answer 7

I think the letter is a very good idea. First off, it will help you with your feelings about things and it will give you the chance to speak without being inturrupted.
Your mom will be okay and so will you!!! You will feel so much better about things once it's out in the open. Plus, you need to think about getting into see a doctor asap!!
Good luck with all of this. No matter how you tell her, she's still going to find out and the sooner the better.

Answer 8

I was 22 when I found out I was pregnant, I too was scared to tell my mom, but I did. I thought about writing her a letter to. Leaving a letter to me is not a responsible choice. I think you and your boyfriend should set her down and tell her together.

Answer 9

you dont say how old you are, but it sounds like you are school age, i no its going to be hard, she may well b a bit upset and disappointed, if i had a daughter i would feel the same, but i would also be there for her 100%, as i believe your mum will be, tell her, find the courage, if its easier write a letter, you cannot go through this alone, im sure it will work out and she will support you

Answer 10

oh hun, i'm really sorry this is so hard for you. first of all congratulations! secondly, choose a time when you can talk properly, sit her down and show her the test!! she will respect you more for telling her than keeping it a secret!!! if she does start moaning just remember you are an adult, you are in a serious relationship and (i'm assuming) you want to keep this baby. its not like it was a silly 1 night stand and you don't know the father. good luck sweetie x