She has done this more than once to me, she goes to work till 11p.m. and comes home, I am asleep at that time(because I have to wake up early) and then she will ,make a lot of noise and argue, yell about something I did wrong in the house(not put away dishes, not closing the windows etc. etc.) this will wake me up and upset my cycle of sleep throughout the night. Last night she did this to me and she knows I was feeling well. I am sorry I am not the perfect husband, but I love her so much, I wish she were a bit kinder to me. How can I handle this situation with her?
2007-02-05 02:01:40 · 11 answers · asked by Thomas 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was not feeling well that night, that is what I was trying to write...
2007-02-05 02:04:42 · update #1
You're both on different schedules - she's coming home all pumped up from work and wide awake and sees the house a mess and wants to vent.
You need to discuss this with her, that she can't mess with your sleep cycle. But you also need to make efforts to make her transition from work to home a little more relaxing - pick up around the house before you go to bed, put the dishes away. Leave her a nice note for when she gets home. Ask her what you can do to make her arrival home more pleasant and relaxing - you'll both benefit in the long run. Best wishes.
2007-02-05 02:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a cell phone, tell her to leave her frustrations on it and ya'll will discuss it the next day when your awake but if your feeling sick, get you both one of those boards that you can write on with dry eraser markers and leave her a note telling her that you don't feel well and your body needs some reat because your sick. Keep those communication lines open. . .See if that will work because doing something about it is alot better than doing NOTHING about it. That will just make her assume you don't care if you close all communication lines. Trying will show her you really care. Make an effort anyway. At the end of her shift , shes probably lonely and needing comfort. I hope this helped some. My boyfriend and I work different hours like that and he's hurt my feelings before when he drifted off to sleep when I wanted some quality time to discuss things.
2007-02-05 10:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to respect you and stop waking you up at night. Whatever the problem is will surly be there when you both wake up. Tell her if theres any problems to communicate them to you when you can give her your full attention and not while you are sleeping. Pick a time schedule it, if not I suggest trying to do a little more of what she expects from you while she is a t work. Little things mean alot. Maybe she feels you are not respecting her as well. If you love each other compromise and work it out. Its not the end of the world.
2007-02-05 12:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your unmatched schedules may make it hard to find a calm time to discuss this, but what you've said here might be the best thing to say to her: "I wish you were a bit kinder to me." And promise to be kinder to her too. Someone has to put away the dishes--can you try to remember to do it more often?
2007-02-05 17:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to shut up and put it in writing! And if that doesn't work keep something on the floor next to the bed to throw at her. That's just rude to wake someone up to yell at them.
2007-02-05 13:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by alcaraz64 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest with her and tell her how you feel... Ask her to please stop... How can it be arguing unless you are arguing back to her? She may need counseling too... Does she seem to nag and complain alot?
2007-02-05 10:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read your answers again!!!!! Yeah, that's right- DEAL WITH IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are married.
Start giving your wife some head dude, she's obviously not getting any!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 12:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Reading and Answering Your Q' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to accommodate her needs is best more quiet
2007-02-05 10:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude...women are alwaays like that! PMS! learn to deal with it
2007-02-05 10:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by jordan 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you hear enough of her crap when you're awake
2007-02-05 14:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by groverpawhurt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋