I am 3 months pregnant, now my baby has died inside of me? The doctor says he can't do anything/ take him out.

Question

What do I have to do I went to the hospital they also say the same, That it will come out by it self is that true?

Answer 1

I am sorry for your loss, I miscarried twice and it was not pleasant. If the fetus has died, you should get a D&C because the fetal tissue starts to break down and can cause sepsis (blood infection) in the mother. It's true that it's better to miscarry naturally if possible but at 3 months the fetus is fairly large and there's no telling when fetal death occurred so I don't understand why they are asking you to wait. All our docs would schedule you for a D&C and probably an overnight stay with some antibiotics (but they are all very cautious as our patients are sue-happy types).

I would seek a second opinion.

Answer 2

First I want to tell you how sorry I am that this has happened to you. I know it is a terrible loss. Having said that I have to say:
There is NO medical reason to wait for your body to spontaneously abort the baby. Find a doctor that will do a D&C if you have to sit down with the phone book and just call one after another. It is inexcusable for any doctor to want you to wait, knowing that your baby has died, for "nature to take its course". That is cruel and has no medical basis. I recently had this happen to a young girl that I was working with and that is why I know how it is handled.
Please find a doctor that will listen to you. If they know for certain that the baby has expired there is no medical, legal reason that they can not order a D&C and let it be over for you.
BTW, the D&C is done on an out patient basis. They will start an IV and take you back to the operating room. Everything will happen while you are asleep. When you wake up it will all be over and you will be in recovery. You will have bleeding like a period and some cramping but probably nothing worse than from a period. If it hurts worse than that ask for pain meds, they are usually pretty good at giving them too you, especially while you are still in the hospital. They will keep you there until you are totally over the anesthesia and when you feel well enough they will help you get dressed and take you out to the car in a wheelchair. Who ever is there with you ( you cannot drive) will take you home and you should go to bed and rest. Within a few days you will be feeling fine. You need to wait 6 weeks for a check-up and then if all is well you are able to resume sex at that time.
Take care sweetie and I am SO darned sorry that this happened to you. There does not seem to be any rhyme or reason to it, it just happens sometimes. BUT, what your doctor is doing IS wrong and I would not put up with it. You do have rights as the patient and I would get on the phone and start doing some checking. One thing, have you very adamantly told your doctor that you do NOT want to wait, that you want a D&C NOW! If you have not done that it might be worth the effort. Maybe he does not realize how strongly you feel but he sure as heck should! I am saying "he" because a woman would not be that insensitive!
Good luck sweetie and again I am so sorry for your loss!
Love and Blessings
Lady Trinity~ *Mr fluffyhead needs to know the difference between a stillbirth and a miscarriage. He is well intentioned but wrong.*

Answer 3

I am so sorry for your loss.

If the baby died, then waiting for your body to naturally miscarry is the least invasive way of getting the baby out. However, if you feel for any reason that you just cannot wait, you could have a d&c (which is essentially the same procedure as an abortion) to remove the baby and the other tissue from your body. I'm not sure why the doctor wouldn't give you this option, honestly. In your shoes, I would seek a second opinion (or a third). Try someplace like Planned Parenthood, maybe?

Answer 4

Oh dear, I'm soooo sorry to hear this!
I think what will happen is your body will put you in labor on it's own. They will not operate and remove the baby, they will make it come out vaginally.
They may do a D&C and do a clean up after you miscarry, or if you don't go soon, go to another doctor, someone should help you out in this situation.
I would imagine that the baby will come on it's own, but if you are worried or troubled, get another opinion. You will still need medical attention, it's not something that will happen at home and you'll go about your normal day.
Get another doctor..preferrably a woman...I'm not trying to be sexist, all my doctors are male, but sometimes I feel that a woman may be able to connect with you a little more..be more compassionate.
Good luck with this.
Keep your chin up.

Answer 5

i went into labor on my own after my baby died, unfortunately (its horrid either way) I did not know he had died until i delivered a 13 week old fetus at 18 weeks. They did however do a D&C that night at the hospital.

Answer 6

Bless your heart! I knew of a lady in Germany who had the same thing happen to her - she didn't know she was even pregnant until she became very ill and went to the hospital. She was 3 months pregnant, and the decomposing baby caused toxins to be released into her bloodstream, making her deathly ill. Please get a second (and third, if necessary!) opinion, for your health and well being.

I wish you well - God bless!

Answer 7

Usually when you have a miscarriage~ about a week later the dr.s supposed to do a D&C. Thats where they go in a scrape out any left over stuff that may be in there! I'm sorry for your loss; I have had several miscarriages myself! The last one was just a couple of months ago. If you need to talk then you can email me! You'll be in my prayers!

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear of your unfortunate news.. :( most of the time you will. micarring is usually from the fetus dieing or being rejected by the body. make sure to keep tabs w/your doctor if you don't start bleeding soon. they may have to induce you so your body can ex-spell the fetus. i am SO sorry to tell you this. this is a sad time for you & i'm sure you where looking for hope. :(

Answer 9

Well if they say they aren't going to do anything, you'll have it at home. Be prepared for a bloody glob at some point, most likely when you go to the bathroom. Sorry to be so graphic...

Otherwise, if the doctor would do something, he'd likely do a Dilation and Curetage... which is basically like an abortion... but not with a live foetus.

Answer 10

oh honey i am sooooooooo sorry! I really am. that happened too my neighbor and my friend. I really dont know what to do. try to find some medical books or talk to the doc more, he knows best. you could try researching on the oh so glorius internet.
Hope you find out! :o)